It's too long of a story to get into, but I have a former friend who I still care about. I helped raise her daughter and now that "our" daughter is about to have a baby, my friend has decided to "sever" all ties with me. What did I do and what can I do to get through to my friend?
2006-09-18 06:52:18 · 6 answers · asked by Starla_C 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok, you do need to know more. "S" the daughter, was left to live with me when she was 16 in Arizona when her parents moved to California. She is 26 now. Her relationship with her Mother has never been good and I offered her love and friendship. Her mother gave me legal guardianship and I raised her until she was 18 and then she moved out of our home into her own apartment. Jelously could be an issue, but I've never tried to replace her mother. I demand that "S" respect her mom and give her credit where it is due.
If my only crime in this friendship is loving her daughter, why would she turn her hate to me?
2006-09-18 07:38:56 · update #1
Here's a saying for you that my dad told me when i was young!!!
"BE CAREFUL WHO YOUR FRIENDS ARE THIS WEEK, BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHO YOUR ENIMIES WILL BE NEXT WEEK."
I hope this helps you out. Think about it , It's true.
Sad but true.
2006-09-18 06:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by joey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's always a reason. You might need to go thru the daughter to get some answers before you talk again to your friend.
You may have inadvertently said and/or did something that offended your friend, or it could be good ole fashioned jealousy. Are you spending alot of time with the daughter, buying or wanting to buy things your friend can't afford?
It could be something as simple as your excitement for this pregnancy on your part that's making your friend step back and say "wait a minute, this is my daughter, not hers...
When you talk to the daughter, ask her questions pertaining more to you and her (like, "do you think I've gotten too involved with your pregnancy", or "have I stepped on anyone's toes with my excitement over your pregnancy")
If you say things like what's going on with your mother, or why is she mad at me, it could upset the daughter. And, we don't want that in her condition, right?
Once you pick her brain and get some answers, then you can decide if your "friend" is worth keeping. Hope this helps. Good Luck!
2006-09-18 14:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by dct1218 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a reason. Did you ask her ? You think it may be the fact that your calling her daughter, our daughter ? Maybe your getting way too involved in their lives and putting your two cents in when it wasn't asked for. Just a thought.
2006-09-18 13:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were true friends, you would get mad and then a few days or weeks get over it. I don't know what your problem is, but I have found that it is over with once you set down and open communication with each other.
2006-09-18 14:05:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you were true friends
the bond btw you two would come through.
2006-09-18 14:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Tony Yayo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not your fualt just try to talk to her and see whats wrong.
2006-09-19 20:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by catzrule24_7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋