i have been with my boyfriend since i was 15, iam 21? When we had sex for the 1st time i didnt bleed as he was expecting to happened. he didnt say anything. now that we are together he keeps asking me who was my 1st one?
i never had sex, i was one of those stupi girl, always studying. i only played around with guys, but that's it. he doesn't believe me and i dont know what to do?
i will have to runaway with my kids if he doesnt believe me. i am tired of all of this. every day is the same thing.
ps- while going out i invited this guy to my house but ended up playing around, and he thinks we did something and we didnt. help please
2006-09-18 06:50:34 · 12 answers · asked by tus_ojos_tristes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
evens his moms tells him it has to happened on the 1st time ,but he still doesn't believe it, i have even offer to do a polygraph so he will see i am not lying.
thank you all
2006-09-18 07:02:22 · update #1
his mom told him only the1st time but things happened and he doesn't believe him.
that if he was my 1st that i shouldnt been cheating on him.
2006-09-18 07:04:42 · update #2
Trying to convince him that some people don't bleed during your 1st time is not the answer. You are trying to convince him that you can be trusted. Dont focus so much on the blood and stuff. Just focus on convincing him that you were his first and if he doesn't trust you, I think he is looking for a way out of the relationship. I would tell him, there is nothing more I can do to convince you, so if you want to leave me, then leave me. Tell him that YOU won't be with HIM if he can't trust you.
2006-09-18 07:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting situation to be in... first of all, stop inviting guys over. It's causing more problems than you're able to fix. The best way to prove your innocence is to live it.
Second, explain if you've ever done splits, gymnastics, ridden a horse or used a tampon prior to having sex with this guy, it would have "popped your cherry" and that's why you didn't bleed.
Third, if he's being this big a jerk about things, reconsider the relationship. If you feel like you would have to run away if he doesn't believe you, perhaps you should consider getting some help. Counselling, that is. Best of luck, girl...
2006-09-18 14:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by ordinaryfemale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hes' being immature. Alot of girls don't bleed their first time. Bleeding is only the stretching of the skin when the penis enters you and so if you didn't bleed it means that you didn't stretch enough to bleed. Maybe he just has a small penis haha!!! j/k no but explain to him that it's nothing to do with being a virgin or not some women don't bleed til there 3rd of 4th time some none at all.
2006-09-18 13:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No trust..for either of you. It kinda sounds like he might be rite though-i mean you did cheat on him while going out like you said. And even though you just "played around" what if it led to something more? If you really loved him you wouldn't have done anything with another guy.
2006-09-18 14:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not uncommon for you not to bleed. There could be many reasons for this. But your husband needs to get over himself. He makes it sound like the only reason he married you was because you were a virgin. If you love this man and want to satisfy his curiosity ask a medical professional.
2006-09-18 13:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thereare several articles you could show him on the subject, not all women bleed when they have sex for the first time.tell him that if he loves you than he would knowthat he can trust you.try to get it through his head that he really was your first and maybe he will stop being an azzhole about it.
2006-09-18 14:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by klassykowgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some women actually arent born with a hyman . also falling accidents can break the hyman. and there is usually not alot of blood . if there was alot of sexual juices involved when you broke your hyman you may have missed the pink tinge.
2006-09-18 13:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by funkyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM BLEEDING DOESN'T ALWAYS HAPPEN THE FIRST TIME SO HE EITHER NEEDS TO TRUST YOU AND GET OVER IT AND GROW UP OR YOU NEED TO MOVE ON TO SOMEONE WHO IS OLD ENOUGH TO HANDLE A RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU WANT .
2006-09-18 14:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by leanngreek@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually they say the person who lacks trust is the one that shouldn't be trusted. Kind of a "I can't be trusted, therfore you can't be trusted either" complex. Tell him to get over it. Or get his head out of his ...
2006-09-18 13:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by Migity696 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does this all the time and can't trust you and you are telling him the truth then leave him. If there is no trust, there is no relationship.
2006-09-18 13:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋