Im 21 years old and have had three children ages 5,4 and 3 months by the same father. I had a complicated pregnancy with my last one. I bled alot in the first couple of months while i was pregnant and my acid reflux disease is soo bad that sometimes i can hardley breathe. I Suffer from Anxiety and my hands are already full with the children i have. I think i might be pregnant again and my body literally cannot handle another pregnancy. Yet i can only be a couple weeks along and i do not have the money to pay for an abortion. I know its my fault and what causes it, im stupid for not being more careful.. What can i do??? Im soo confused and lost right now. Please help me. I will not feel offended by anyones answers.
2006-09-18 06:44:41 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I sorry, but I just don't understand why u haven't been more careful if u don't want anymore. It is stupid to put yourself in this position, all i can think of is fund the money for an abortion somewhere or go through with this and adopt..... and then PLEASE will you get your tubes tied or something. What about your partner?? why isn't he taking some responsibility for preventing pregnancy?? U sound desperate and i do feel for u, but I'm finding it hard to have a large amount of sympathy. U r only 21 I think you really need to grow up a bit for the sake of the children u do have.
Good luck
2006-09-18 07:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Big Hugs! If you are pregnant you have 4 children. The one inside is as important, alive and needing of your love. I know it is hard and having suffered with anxiety, I know it can feel crippling and overwhelming. There are places that can help you. You must have a Crisis Pregnancy Centre in your area. Look it up on the net. Go speak to a counsellor there. Speak to your doctor about anxiety treatments that are safe in pregnancy. Call on your friends and family right now to support and love you. You can do this. There are options that involve not taking your babies life. Whether you keep the baby or choose adoption, you will be a good mom for protecting your little baby. You are two separate bodies with two separate beating hearts. People suffering with Post Abortion Syndrome be it forced miscarriage or not will tell you that it is no quick fix and leaves much scarring to the mama.
2006-09-18 14:11:55 · answer #2 · answered by Love Birth 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have just turned 20 3 days ago. (I also have extremely bad acid reflux and I was not aware it would get worse during pregnancy until I found that out a short while ago.) My husband and I wanted a baby so bad and I know there are others out there like us. We have money to support a baby and know there is no greater happiness than that of being a parent. I had at least (it complicated) one miscarriage, You DO NOT want that! Its bad for your body not just physically but mentally and emotionally also. Please, you chose this, you could have went to a facility for family planning. Or took the morning after pill if it was a mistake. Just because the baby can't survive by itself right now, doesn't mean its not a human being! If that was true about what the other lady said in her answer, then maybe elderly people who can't survive by themselves would fall under the same category to be killed? You chose this so don't take it out on a beautiful, innocent child. Let the doctor decide if your body can handle this pregancy or not. You can get financial assistance if need be. Or there are people who will pay for your entire pregnancy and delivery including all the expenses of traveling and board so you can be a surrogate mother and they will adopt your child and give it a stable loving home life and family that it deserves! Some couples aren't as fortunate as us to be able to experience the joys of pregnancy and being mommies and daddies. They aren't physically able to have children and I know how depressing that can be. Please rethink what you're saying. And give someone a chance to have a family and your unborn child the chance to have a better life. And go to a clinic they will assist you with birth control options so you won't have to worry about this happening to you and your family again. P.S. our baby is due in October. Her name will be Brianna Nichole. She is a person, a real person, not just a glob that is inside of me. Remember when you felt your babies kick? Or felt morning sickness, thats your body's hormones changing for that baby and that baby adjusting and growing inside of you. She is a REAL life. Just think of him/her getting older, learning to walk, to talk, starting school, getting married, and even experiencing the joys of starting her (or his) own family. Maybe even experiencing the joys of pregnancy for herself one day.
2006-09-18 14:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by Phillip B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Miscarrying "naturally" is an act of Nature; it just happens and all too often it happens to women who really wanted the pregnancy. Making yourself miscarry is not natural; it's an abortion. I'm pro-choice but I have to strongly urge you not to try to do something yourself to terminate your pregnancy. Not only would it be highly unlikely to work, but you'd be risking your health and your life and you have three kids who need a mother. Contact Planned Parenthood about your options; perhaps RU-486 is most cost-effective than a surgical abortion, I don't know. If your body cannot handle another pregnancy, PP can also give you all the information you'll need to prevent it from happening again.
2006-09-18 14:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by mockingbird 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe in abortion,or making yourself have a miscarriage! Have you even thought about how you,the baby's father or even your other children will feel about you doing something like that in a few years! I had a miscarriage after my first baby and my doctor told me it was a natural miscarriage due to the fact that my body couldn't carry another child at the time, it's been almost 2 years since I lost my baby and for any mother who has ever had to lose a baby will tell you it never gets easier! I cry my self to sleep every night, not one day goes by that I don't think about my baby. You should never kill a baby! it's not only wrong it should be illegal! If you don't want the baby give it to someone who will love and take care of it the ways it should be loved and cared for.
2006-09-18 14:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by jackie b 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I can't believe that as a mother after having 3 children you would even think about abortion or getting rid of this child. Not every pregnancy is the same. You might not have any problems with this baby. I was diagnosed with GERD (acid reflux disease). It was horrible my first pregnancy, after wards and now with this pregnancy, i'm fine, it doesn't bother me one bit. Take what life throws at you. Don't kill an innocent child. he/she didn't ask for a mother who is selfish and wants to get rid of him/her out of selfish reasons.
2006-09-18 13:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by jevic 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I would do is consult your local Planned Parenthood or health clinic. They can help you make the decision that is right for you and discuss birth control options for the future. I am not an expert in this area, but perhaps there are low-cost options for terminating a pregnancy? Please do not put your health at risk by "trying" to miscarry. It sounds like you need more support than you can get from an Internet questions arena. Good luck.
2006-09-18 13:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by kimpenn09 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GET YOUR TUBES TIED. "I know I should have been more careful?" Ya think?! How do you know your body "literally" can't handle another pregnancy. Bleeding and acid reflux is not a serious enough problem to end a pregnancy. This is just a cop out. You are trying to justify your selfish reasons to end your pregnancy.
2006-09-18 14:14:00 · answer #8 · answered by elizabeth32132 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
naturally miscarry? you mean how can you kill your unborn child without having to pay a doctor to do it? your crazy and if you have your hands full with the children you have you should have your tubes tied or use birth control of some kind, but obvioulsy if you are already pregnant its too late for that, i dont know of any way to perform an at home abortion and would not suggest it, go to a doctor, and if you do get an abortion do something to prevent future pregnancies and more children.
2006-09-18 13:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by domsmom701 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
stop !!!!! your upset go to the doctors and get some help do not do anything your gonna regret go see the doctor and tell him how you feel your other children are only babies themselves your only 21 im 23 and not ready for one let alone 3 going on four i really think you need to get some help from the doctor or family if you have no family speak to a friend its not fair that you feel this bad x
2006-09-18 13:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by leanne_on_line 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋