i.e...it just gets annoying sometimes when you have to take orders...
2006-09-18 06:34:11 · 19 answers · asked by Missylicious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We do discuss things together, its just that sometimes his word is final. He respects my wishes and involves me in everything he does and DOES NOT make dicisions without consulting me.
2006-09-18 06:59:05 · update #1
The traditional way. You know the man thinks he is the dominant force in the relationship, When it in reality its the woman controlling things through passive aggression and manipulation it has worked for centuries.
2006-09-18 07:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is a relationship of give and take, it is more than a 50/50 thing it's more like 100/100. If both individuals are not willing to road to travel. Honestly you aren't his mother so you shouldn't be giving him orders and he isn't your father so he shouldn't be giving you orders. Talk to him tell him how his "orders" make you feel and if he doesn't care ask him how he would feel if you reversed the role. If you two have an open communication line and he respects you maybe he doesn't know he's making you feel this way.
2006-09-18 14:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by aboxernamedgrace 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"take orders"? sorry I though you were talking about a relationship.
Your should be talking about a partnership here not a job or the military. There should be things each is better at and I would think they should agree that person will make the decision in those areas unless the other objects. This dominant/submissive attitude, I suspect will put you on the road to a lifetime of unhappiness. Try thinking about respect, both the giving and receiving of it.
2006-09-18 13:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by madjer21755 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're taking orders, you're in a bad relationship and should get out. Anybody that would order you around has no respect for you and should be dumped like a bag of dirt.
Of course there are people who like to be dominated, abused and even beaten. You generally see women like that living in a run down trailer park wearing a tube top and a black eye.
2006-09-18 13:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by sol_s_99 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
God gave authority to the man and the woman is supposed to submit to her husband's authority. BUT....
Someone has taught you incorrectly. Your husband's place is never to "give orders." You should be discussing things as a couple, as partners in a marriage. If you disagree with something that he does or wants you to do, you should be able to discuss it with him. If you do not agree with his decision, you should say that you don't agree and he should take that into consideration in a kind manner.
What determines if you submit is whether or not he is following God. If he says that he is going to sell the car for something more economic, and you do not agree because you like the Porsche, then you can let him know, but ulitimately, he gets to make the decision that is best for your finances. That falls in line with God telling us to be wise with our finances, so you must let him do what is best for the family.
But, if he wants to take the grocery money and buy beer or pot, and you tell him no, but he says, "Shut up woman and do what I say!" Then, you must do what God would have YOU do, which is be wise with your finances, and you must NOT listen to your husband's foolish wishes.
See, God gave men authority, but they are not supposed to abuse it. Unfortunately many men do.
YOU must always put God first. If you do this, you cannot go wrong in the decisions that you make. If you put God first, God overrules your husband. You have to listen to God and abide by His Word first, always. If you do, you will succeed.
I have just learned to do this. In doing so, I have reclaimed a more Godly home. I have rid my home of beer and other useless stuff. I still have to deal with anger and complaints, but God will deal with my husband on that. That is God's affair, not mine. I had to cleanse my home for my children. God has to cleanse my husband. My husband will either keep our home clean or he will get tired of it and leave. If he leaves, that frees me. I am not wishing for that, but I am simply putting God first.
Also, even though God gave man a position of authority that we are to respect (the same as you would respect a pastor or our president) WE WERE BOTH CREATED EQUAL. And when one tries to be pushy in the relationship, problems begin.
2006-09-18 13:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by Christian93 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take orders? I'll have my eggs over medium please! ;) Yes, my love, just because I love you! Most good relationships there is a balance. Recognizing each other's strengths.
Think of this way, if both are dominating...problems! Same with both that are submissive.
2006-09-18 13:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, the wife has to be submissive. But the husband has to make it easy on the wife to be submissive. But in a b/f g/f thing, niether have to submit becuz the union is not in writing yet.
2006-09-18 13:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by Photographer 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Equal-always equal,never mind about what CHRISTIAN...?says,it is not about god,god doesn't come into it,he/she aint living with you,and therefore does not make the rules regarding a marriage-nevermind dominant/submissive.
2006-09-18 14:29:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it does and you really shouldn't have to do that. A marriage is two people, three worlds, your world, his world and both of your worlds combined, with both of you trying to achieve a goal in mind set by the both of you. As far as dominance go I am the dominate force in our marriage, my wife lets me do just what she want. lol
2006-09-18 13:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by bprice215 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i like both dominant & submissive women but prefer the woman to be the dominant one in the relationship. i'm submissive & like it that way ...lol
2006-09-18 14:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by amtrakcafe2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋