because you knew you could have helped and you didn't do anything
a girl i "knew" hung herself last weekend.
i saw her walking to class every day and i never said a thing to her. i used to make fun of her behind her back and ignore her. she said she wanted to know me and i didn't make an effort to know her. i feel bad and sad about it becuase now she's dead and i'm sitting here.
2006-09-18 06:13:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
no. she actually seemed overly happy all the time. but only sround people.
2006-09-18 06:15:36 · update #1
you had a chance
2006-09-20 12:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Meme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on it's not really your fault...how would you be sure that you has anything to do with her death. Maybe there were bigger things happening in her life, bigger than you ignoring her. Maybe she had some issues that you didn't know of....Sometimes it happens that you don't feel like to be some body's friend or to get to know that person. I mean in a class you can't have everybody as your friend right? but yeah, you shouldn't have made fun of her behind her back, I hope it didn't hurt her or she didn't know about it. But you are feeling bad inside and that shows you have a good heart. Just try not to make fun of people. Ever again i meant! lol...Cheer up!
2006-09-18 06:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by Nailhead_pixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to separate two things in your feelings about this. First, you should not feel bad about 'causing' her death, because you had no way of knowing what she was going through or experiencing, and it is not fair to yourself to blame yourself. It is tragic, and there may have been something you could have done, but hindsight is always easier, and the truth is there are tons of things each of us can do everyday to make other's lives easier that we never realize. Don't beat yourself up over something you were not aware of.
Second, internalize some of it, and let yourself think about how you treat others and wish to be treated. Her death is tragic, but the lesson you could take from it is not "It's my fault" but rather "What sort of things can I do to help prevent this?" and "What should I pay attention to among my friends and peers?"
Good luck, I will say a prayer for you, your community, and her soul.
2006-09-18 06:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by But why is the rum always gone? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making fun of anyone or talking behind anyone's back is a very bad habit. It's a shallow way to make yourself feel superior than the other person. No one is superior than the next. Even the homeless guy deserves respect because he is flesh and blood just like you. The only time I say you have the right to defend is when another person is being rude and obnoxious to you without provocation.
2006-09-18 06:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by Believe me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so sad but next time if you see someone asking you to be their friend listen ,All you can do now is get over it and move on
She may had a person problem at home and that is the reason for her death we never know it have nothing to do with you at all are the other kids
2006-09-18 07:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by Linda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel sooooo awful!!! What i would do is learn form that mistake. She probably was picked on by other people, not just you! Being accepted is vitally important to teens, especially girls. You didn't have to date her or anything. Just be polite. What was so hard about that?
...What you should do is cahnge your behavior, and be the defender of poeple like her. Don't let people make others feel like less then human, for what ever reason. It is sooo wrong!!!! What if you were the one getting picked on??
2006-09-18 06:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by angela 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other comments, don't beat yourself up over a missed opportunity but...
You shouldn't make fun of people anyway. You can chose to be friends with anybody you want, but why make fun of somebody? What is the point?
2006-09-18 06:19:35 · answer #7 · answered by stuckinamoment 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What u can do now is pray for her...and dont ignore people around u anymore: I am sure u will be a better person from now on.
2006-09-18 06:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad. You can play the 'if' game all day and night. You may have befriended this chick and she might have still hung herself.
2006-09-18 06:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by mutterhals 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't dwell on something that is out of your control.
What is in your control is the future.... Don't let someone like her pass you in the future, make the effort to be their friend.
2006-09-18 06:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by Smitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should treat everybody as a equal to yourself you just learnt a valible lesson in life but dont beat yourself up over it good luck mate
2006-09-18 06:15:53 · answer #11 · answered by Iknow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋