Like i said i am gay and 20 . My boyfriend is 48 and i want to tell him how i fill and what i think but i dont want to make him mad at . i also find myself of bieng affraid that he is going to leave me and i hate to be alone can somone help me?
2006-09-18 05:46:36 · 23 answers · asked by stumpy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him how you feel, if he truly loves you he wont be mad or leave you. No one wants to be alone but you don't want to be with someone if your afraid they are gonna leave you, Just talk to him, be totaly truthful if he does leave you then you know you can get better. Hope it works out for you :)
2006-09-18 05:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by holly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bold move to ask your question here in a world that has a hard time accepting gay and lesbian relationships. Personally I could care less about what society labels you gay/lesbo because I see people so to answer your question as in any relationship talk to him. I
think he is way too old for you but possibly that is why you did chose him cause he should be at the age he is be able to have a adult conversation. If you fear his anger at your conversation write down some things you have on your mind and think of safe ways to say them that will not invoke any anger. Be mindful if his rage is going to explode at simply conversation on feelings be careful should you make him angry.
As far as your feeling of loneliness goes surround yourself with friends it is human nature to have the urge to seek compaionship does not mean it has to be a relationship. I am sure you have friends so if things go sour turn to the ones you know will be there for you. Take care.
2006-09-18 05:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by Shadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes heartache and heart break to be a strong and secure individual (straight or gay). If you cannot speak openly about your feelins with your partner, that's not a healthy relationship. Why do you think he will get mad, does he get mad when you talk about feelings usually? How long have you been together? Nobody wantes to be alone, you're young though. Plenty of time to find the right person, someone you can talk to and who won't get angry. I say just try to talk to him, if he doesn't listen or gets in a modd...dump him! He's not worth your time if he's going to act like that. Let him be the one who grows old alone!
2006-09-18 05:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In maximum states this would be statutory rape. If the couple gets caught, that is no longer suitable what the persons in touch choose, the older person would be going to penal complex for an prolonged time... like 10 or two decades. To the guy who mentioned it would be ok for a straight away dating, don't have faith it. in the event that they are caught in a sexual act, the older person would nonetheless pass to penal complex inspite of what the folk choose. If the mum and dad discover out, they are in a position to press costs in loco parentis for the minor. it incredibly is far less probable in a straight away dating, yet nonetheless a danger. how many mum and dad of the extra youthful guy in a gay dating does no longer call the police on the older guy? they might contend that the older guy "recruited / corrupted" the extra youthful guy. in case you want to proceed this form of dating, do no longer make the dating sexual. the possibility purely purely isn't worth it.
2016-10-01 02:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by kroner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo you are dating a 48 year old guy wow, tell him how you feel you are only 20 years old it's not the end of the word if he leave he leaves. you may not be alone forever . you are only 20
2006-09-18 06:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Bold one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you afraid he will be mad at you. You can only live in the present and work on what is going on now. Why would he leave you?? Because you are young?? Just relax and go with the flow.
2006-09-18 06:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by nursingsec8066 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you need to get over this not wanting to be alone thing because all that does is get you stuck in a bad relationship.
2nd you need to be good to yourself. Make sure you are happy because no one else will. Also don't be worried about making him made my moto is "they will get over it, I don't care who I make mad, they will get glad in the same pants they got mad in!" You can't live you life afraid of making people mad, because you can't make everyone happy all the time.
Just worry about you! Good luck. No one deserves to be unhappy and the number one key to a happy and good relationship is communication~
2006-09-18 05:58:28 · answer #7 · answered by Indiana Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with him. tell him how you feel. life is all mapped out for us so don't worry about being gay and certainly don't worry about being alone. if anything your boyfriend should worry about being alone as you are much younger and you have more time to go onto another relationship if you wanted. once you get older it is not as easy to move on
2006-09-18 05:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not the one for you if you can't talk to him about how you feel. It sounds to me like you are only with him because you don't want to be alone. You need to be secure in yourself before you can be in a fulfilling relationship.
2006-09-18 05:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't accept you for your feelings, and respect you for being honest, then it's time for you too move on. Just tell him what is on your mind, if he gets mad, maybe he isn't ready for that kind of emotional intamacy. The only way to know, is try it.
2006-09-18 05:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by angela 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋