what do you think the best way to sit down with my wife and tell her i want a divorce with having her blow up on me is? ( this woman has a serious mean side. sitting down and having a humane conversation is most of the time out of our life.) we have been married for 2 years now. we never lived with eachother untill we got married ( Big Mistake )
2006-09-18 05:07:22 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude, just face the music and do it. Just be sure there is a table between you and nothing on the table she can throw at you.
2006-09-18 05:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well all I can say is i have been married going on 9 yrs and marriage is not easy it is a big give and take. Sometimes it is 80/20 or 90/10. As long as it takes to get into a relationship is the amount of time you should give for it to disolve have you tryed counceling??? Or anything??? If you don't mind me asking you say she has a mean side but there are two sides to every story what are you doing in the relationship to make it work or not work. Why is she so mean??? The first 5 yrs are the hardest specialy when you have not lived with each other because you are taking to individuals and saying here you put the toilet paper on the roll like this and I do it like this so now are we going to argue or do we discuss and compromise and come to a solution. I REPEAT NEVER HAVE A ROOMATE DURING THE FIRST YEARS THAT HAS BEEN OUR HARD PART!!! But we get through it life is to short to go through it alone.
2006-09-18 05:15:14 · answer #2 · answered by JavaPrincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im the same way(i love to fight with my ex but its his fault!lol) than I realized that it just hurt our relationship! We are now divorced! Ask her if she would be willing to do counseling? or just tell her how u feel! If you dont want to work it out with her just go get the divorce papers and do what my ex did to me move out without letting her know, if you got kids than dont do his mistake and leave her at least still help! First you both should sit down and talk or separate for a while! Good luck! and I wish you the best!
2006-09-18 05:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by smile114 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If being somewhere crowed like a restaurant would keep her from yelling do it there. I know that is not the best place but it might work. When i told my husband i told him it was not working and i was leaving. He did not take it well. He yelled and screamed and did not understand. But i told him i was not happy and it was over. I actually told him the first time when we were eating then we got in to it at home. It is not the easiest thing to do but if you are not happy and know things can not be fixed just prepare for the yelling and tell her. Good luck telling her.
2006-09-18 05:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is not an option my brother. remember the marriage vow we seen so often? the question to ask is not if u marry the wrong woman but what u could do to savage and bring forth this love. try ur best to see the goodness in her and u never know how great a woman she might be. which is easier and faster, to change her or yourself? in 1 second u can make that decision.
2006-09-18 05:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think under the circumstances I would leave and then have her informed of your separation (get a legal one) then after the waiting time is over get your divorce and try to learn that you should know someone well before letting them into your life as your life mate!!! be careful; not to jump the fence too soon again some of us have to get more then one divorce to know better and to realize that we could be better off alone! Take care of your children if you have any!
2006-09-18 05:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, even a person who doesn't blow up isn't going to take, "I want a divorce" very well. :(
Just sit down with her and tell her. If she gets overly upset or verbally abusive, leave and let her cool down. Come back when you can discuss it rationally. If you try again and are met with the same response, just leave and have your lawyer serve the papers.
2006-09-18 05:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is a big mistake. You should of been together before you got married that way you would of known if you were capadable.1ST off she will blow up in your face no matter what you say or how nice you say it. There is no way around it. But if you lay it down nicely and tell her how you feel she just might repect you more for that in th elong run!
2006-09-18 05:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by c_dilleynlancaster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you're not happy and the marriage isn't working for you. Have a bag packed so you can leave her with her anger. Tell her you will return in the morning to talk. Assure her you will answer her calls. Suggest she call a friend over. If you really care about her, you may want to call her sister, mother, or best friend and suggest they go spend the evening with her. Make that call on the way to your hotel.
2006-09-18 05:12:07 · answer #9 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that! If she is that way then no wonder you want a divorce. There isn't no easy way to tell her you want to leave her. Just do it as you are running out the door. Make sure she doesn't have a knife in her hand.
2006-09-18 07:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by hotmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she isn't gona talk with you than find a place one day while she is at work or something leave the papers on the table and move out. Don't tell her where you went and by the time you run accross her she outa be calmed....
Hopefully she'll sign the papers.
2006-09-18 05:11:16 · answer #11 · answered by Sandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋