Me and my boyfriend attempted to sleep together but, erm ... he couldn't exactly get it in. its both of our first times and because this happened he said he lost his confidence i dunno what to do to help him or to deal with the problem because i dunno if its common or if there is a real problem ... what can we do?
2006-09-18 05:07:03 · 15 answers · asked by holly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
keep trying
2006-09-18 05:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by traveller 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Since its a first time for both of you, you have to work together. i'm sure you were both nervous and he probably had some performance anxiety, which is very common, especially on a first time. Like i said the two of you should work together, to remain calm, how many ppl actually get it right the first time? Try again when you have the time, rushing won't help the situation. Don't try to hold him up to any standards. Just try to relax and let the situation flow. Just keep practicing, it may take a while, but trust me it will work
Its kind of hard to get what i want to say out in words. If you want you can email me.
2006-09-18 05:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by cmp8423 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have just been that nervous . Take your time , don't make a big deal out of it .
Let him know that you love him and that just being together for right now is okay .
I'm sure if it was nerves after a few more times making out he will be back in the game .
However if this continues he will need to see a Doctor .
2006-09-18 05:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure of your ages, but it sounds like you're pretty young if he's lost his confidence over this and when you say "first time", if you mean first time having sex, then I would say it's maybe not uncommon with jitters going on. I would tell him that you'll try again and definitely get some lubricant like K-Y Jelly (don't use baby oil), and then you and he rub him together until he gets hard, then just try to relax and help him hit the spot, and it should all go "up" hill from there.
2006-09-18 05:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by Leslie G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all, you didn't state your age! But if you and your boyfriend truly have the right feelings for each other, then trust me,It will happen ! I've been an " OB " nurse for 35 yrs. ,and know from experience that each time it will "fit", and will get even better each time.
2006-09-18 05:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by grammasis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats very wierd. Ummm He needs some help. Try a docter
2006-09-18 05:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the bookstore and get any one of the 1,000 books they have on this topic.
Make sure you tell him you want him to again and keep with it. Need to boost his confidence.
2006-09-18 05:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by Billy! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's your first time..then yes it's common. Just try again and go slow, and use protection.
2006-09-18 05:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by Ken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait i think you both are to young but if you do decide to try again please please use protection not just to prevent prenancy but because of sexually transmitted diseases take your time grow up and my best advise is to wait until you are married i wish i had as far as it being common i dont know my ex had problem with erection with 2 different women not me i think that when its right it will happen
hope i helped ktsgal@yahoo.com
2006-09-18 05:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by boredism 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he needs to read a good sex help book. Would you like me to give you some instruction?
2006-09-18 05:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can get it up and you have moisture then maybe you should help him take aim.
2006-09-18 05:09:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋