Question about closeness and moving from friendship to more!!!!??????
I have this best friend, I'm a guy, she's a girl, we are 15 and have known each other for 2 years. When we hang out in a group, we are always standing close to each other. We playfully fight with and mock each other all the time. She calls me Reilly, even tho everyone else calls me by my first name and if they call me Reilly she gets anoyed. We are very comfortable with each other. On a couch we sorta lean into each other, anyway, I am pretty sure now that she likes me, an I know I like her, A Lot, so what should I do next? Should I test the waters by hugging her? An arm round the shoulder or waist? Any advice?
Specifically I want to know what I should do next and how.
2006-09-18 05:02:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When you two are alone, tell her how you feel. Be honest with her. Tell her that you really like her and would like to be more than just friends. If she likes you,(which it sounds like) it will be as easy as that.
2006-09-18 05:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by teeniey37 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU will have to be brave and a real gentlman. This is a serious decison and what "IS" best is not what is gonna "Feel" the best for a little while.
Okay- taking it to the next level at this age is not the correct thing.
Trust me in this its just hormones. You need to act on those, by yourself at home "in private" in a healthy personal way.
So "paws" off the girl You can "only touch" her the way that is appropriate in front of the whole family. A relationship is going to be difficult thing to maintain in this age of change and adding sex into the mix is more dangerous than you can ever imagine. [You don't know what you Don't know-so don't be upset by that honest truth] You are not the first nor the last that will hear/read these words from me.
[ So if you must date her, then YOU need to set the boundries. NO matter what she offers, that emotional maturity to handle that "action" is not there yet. I know it doesn't feel that way right now.Being a gentleman is worth more than any thing else]
A best friend is much harder to replace!
Tell her the "truth" . Our friendship is an investment, I already love you as a friend We have been so close for two years and not many couples our age "Make if though highschool" with all the changes that happen. You know, "how I feel" so maybe we should just back off the "next level' till we get older. I respect you and honor you by being a gentleman and telling you the truth.I hope that you will love, respect and honor me by understanding that when I say "no" it is for the best and its a very hard choice to make. Its not about you, its about the actions.
So let's make plans to be best friends and we can work on dating later. So put me down for Your "Date" for Senior Prom.
You really should ask your Dad about these things. He has walked in these shoes before, if you don't know how- JUST PRINT THIS PAGE and hand it too him and say, Dad can we talk about all these things in a few days...." That will reduce the old shock factor for Pops." He knows your becoming a man, yet your always is baby boy and its time to take your parents to the same level your on now. The real truth behind sex, relationships and why do things like this hurt my emotions and body in different ways. He has been there, its hard for you understand that now, yet he loves you more than anything and will help you.
Show him this first, and then ask "girl" questions later. okay. Girls, Woman and relationships is rough to understand- Dude, its a million dollar business, as Dr. Phil. so take small steps.
Then your parents will support your actions with your friends, since you have just trusted them to tell the situation. I know that it will seem weird and against the "grain" of teenagers. Yet your best "secret" weapon is your Dad on your side. No one needs to know, and that's where the courage comes into your life.
Best wishes!
2006-09-18 12:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Starting with a hug is best. Then youll move into a kiss sooner or later. Enjoy yourselves, take your time, the relationship will be stronger if you dont rush.
You might want to just come out and ask her if she wants to be your girl. Then if she says yes, then you wont feel so awkward doing things. Like hugs and kisses.
2006-09-18 12:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all too obvious she likes you but just find out what she wants. Talk to her about it thats the best advice i can give. if she dosent like you as s boyfriend then what you have found my friend is a 100% bonafide friend for life!
2006-09-18 12:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by toobdoob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah u shud go for it, what have u got to lose? from my point of view looks liek she likes u too if she gets upset by any1 else callin u reilly or wateva. and as a gurl i kno she wont say it first coz tht what we do blive it, jus go 4 it m8 u wont regret it =)
2006-09-18 12:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by TofoluX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest just talking to her about it, since you guys are so close. I would say, please don't let this affect our friendship, but I am starting to have feelings of more than friendship towards you (or just tell her exactly how it is that you feel) then ask her how she feels about it? Good luck to you and I hope it all works out.
2006-09-18 12:08:03 · answer #6 · answered by Maymie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her how you feel because she may feel the same way but is afraid to tell you. Be the bigger person and let her know first.
2006-09-18 12:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by fa0099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should stay abstinent wich each other until you get to college especially if you truly "like her A lot".
2006-09-18 12:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by 6th Finger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Ask her if she likes you before you make any move.
2006-09-18 12:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by Chelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋