My B/F who is 22 years old can drink and drink for days and days on end. He has a history of alcoholisum in his family. I fear for his life what can I do to help?
2006-09-18 05:01:58 · 12 answers · asked by April W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you can't do too much. He must do
2006-09-18 05:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You tell him that you will not live your life with an alcoholic. Then it's his choice what to do about it.
Don't back down and don't give in.
If he says he's not an alcoholic, then just tell him
"not yet, your not". Then leave things in his hands.
He's been warned. If he doesn't stop drinking, or stop drinking so much then leave and don't look back.
That is the best favor you can do for yourself, and in the long run, him too possibly.
Be firm and be serious and stand your ground.
best of luck,
J
2006-09-18 12:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by frankly2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is truly your B/F then you either attracted to wounded souls and feel you can save him or you yourself have a self-destructive layer you may or may not even know you have yet......especially in your early 20's.......My advice is don't focus on his flaws b/c the more attention his flaws get....the more they are bolstered for their purpose in this case self-destruction.........Let him have his own fears( i fear for his life) I'm sure you have enough for yourself ..........Whatever you focus on is what will grow...
Be a good friend and help him focus on things that make him happy not remind him of the reason why he drinks.....if everything reminds him of why he drinks.....help him find things non-drinking related things that make him happy.......it will only strengthen your friendship. Good Luck!
2006-09-18 12:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by macrominded 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him he has to want to help him self.i was with someone like that for 6 yrs.thats how many of my years was wasted.they care a bout drinking more then anything.
and no this is not a normal thing.all people who are with a drinker want to save them.but we cant.
2006-09-18 12:06:53 · answer #4 · answered by bassetluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can do to help is to encourage him to go to rehab before he kills someone or himself. All it takes to have someone admitted is a family member and a friend.
2006-09-18 12:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by twopastmidnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a b/f like that. I broke up with him, he was pretty upset, but I wasn't going to put myself though all that. He was making his own choices.
2006-09-18 12:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not normal but you need to let him reach bottom to figure out he needs to quit drinking dont enable him.
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-09-18 12:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him gently u are concern about his health and how u feel. u may have to put this issue into your consideration with his relationship.
2006-09-18 12:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..... there is a rule in our life we had to reconsidered alot we donna have bother ourselves or hurt them to let others be happy i mean on our releif account ,,, yeah he is your bf but as you say it , it is still stick to his family ( alcohol) so i think you gotta leave him ......
2006-09-18 12:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by coleman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drink with him
2006-09-18 12:05:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing unless he wants to do it himself
2006-09-18 12:26:13 · answer #11 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋