I was involved with my barber for about a year or so and I wanted more but he said we were just friends and come to find out he was doing his ex whom he lived with for four years. I found myself making appointments with him then he was like "I'll let you know" one day so I decided to break it off.
2006-09-18 04:55:17 · 22 answers · asked by empireofz 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
For a man it's good, because why buy the cow when you can get the milk free, and for them sex is just sex. They compartmentalize their emotions much better than us women, so they can have sex and not become emotionally attached...I know I'm generalizing here, but for the most part I find this to be true.
For most women, we start off the arrangement with indifference, but somewhere along the line, the emotional connection happens, and then when the affair does not progress the way we desire it to, we get hurt.
For me personally I know I will be an emotional wreck, if I were to engage in this type of affair. No matter how impersonal sex is, the experience is very personal to me. I can toy with the idea, find it exciting and stimulating, but when it comes time to partake in the act, I must feel love in order to touch the other person.
2006-09-18 06:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 like-minded adults should have no problems and have fun at the same time. However, it can ruin some friendships. Make sure your friend is mature enough not to make assumptions. Both need to make sure the other knows that theyre still just friends.
It could become complicated when one gets into a relationship and still wants to be friends with you. The new partner may feel quite uncomfortable having you around. This could cause major problems. Even if the new partner isn't told, they could still find out the wrong way.
2006-09-18 05:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by LadyMagick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits is the best but the only way this can work is if both parties have a clear understanding of whats going on. The both of you have to know that feelings will not be present. Once someone gets in their feeling about the other person then its over. Yall are only in it for the sex and the fun.
No feelings no problem!!!
2006-09-18 12:49:12 · answer #3 · answered by Niko Johnson Junior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits should be taken for what it is. Friends understand and support each other. The benefits involved should be clearly defined and both parties should know the terms and agree to the terms. Unfortunately in most cases one person ends up wanting more. Be big enough about it not to let it ruin the friendship. Just go back to being friends and forget the benefits when it is no longer working out equally for both persons.
2006-09-18 05:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it would work for me personally, cause I tend to have strong feelings for the men I choose to have sex with. If the feelings aren't there then the sex thing isn't there either. I guess it could work with some people, but with an understanding that it's only sex. I would have to ask myself if they really liked me for who I am, or if they like me for what I can do for them. It kinda seems the same as being friends with someone just for their money or something, no real friendship at all.
2006-09-18 07:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"freinds with benefits" can be a good thing as long as both sides are at the same mutual level of understanding that there are "no strings".....and if both parties are benefiting... we may develop feelings for one an other because sex is very intimate thing...sometimes lust and love can be confused. It depends on the special friend you have...if you can remain friends after? hmmm.....sometimes.....reality is tho that someone usually always gets hurt in the end...
2006-09-18 06:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by pritty_princess_c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on you. If you only want a piece of a man, then sure stay with that guy, science he'll never be yours. But if you looking for something more, like someone to connect with on a whole other level, then let that thang go and move on. Bottom line:
-you can have sex with someone who dont want you.
-or
-sex with someone whos actually intrested in you.
The choice is yours
Good Luck
CERA
2006-09-18 05:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by vacera g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did it for about half a year with my best friend who I also dated before that, so I guess it was fine cause we were not doing anything we hadn't already done before and it was 100% no strings attached, I ended it though cause we started focusing too much on that instead of just hanging out, being friends, it was good while it lasted and I personally think it made us become better friends!
2006-09-18 05:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, ok, ok, wait.....you-a single woman-are allowing a man who allegedly has an "ex" to dictate your movements?
NO ONE IS STROKING THAT WELL!
It is not my place to judge and I wont, because believe me, EVERYBODY has done this. My advice to you is to set a standard to live by as a woman with respect for others, but more importantly YOURSELF-hopefully based upon sound Christian principals-and do not settle for anything less.
"Friends with benefits" is a conditional phrase that means you are willing to meet someone else's conditions placed upon you in order for them to bring you happiness in whatever form. You are a child of God and deserve so much better than that.
Start to view yourself as a walking temple of God and you will notice how God will step in and help you make a change within yourself to not allow people to come in and dump on you for the sake of wordly happiness and love.
I will be praying for you.
2006-09-18 16:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you learned a lesson here! The guy used you.....sorry, but that's the way it appears.
The "friends with benefits" thing only works for a few people and the whole thing must be done with a mutual understanding right up front. Even then, usually someone ends up feeling hurt.
2006-09-18 05:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋