I'm a bit worried about my girlfriend as she drinks alcohol everyday and still continues after binge drinking with a hangover. I've asked her to try drinking every other day to cut down a little but she just shouts at me a lot when I say anything. I love her a lot but I can't deal with her being drunk every night any more.
2006-09-18 04:51:55 · 17 answers · asked by travis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your girlfriend is an alcoholic. She doesn't really care about you and doesn't care about her own health. Trust me your best move is to get out of the realtionship. She will get worse as the arguments will become more frequent and overbearing. Run dude run!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-18 04:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by surething_78504 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Loving someone is not the answer to this one. Your girlfriend is finding a way to avoid something through the drinking; and the worst thing is that women don't have the same ability as men do to be able to cope with the toxic effects of consuming alcohol.
You've got to get tough now; get some reality on what the effects are for women; what the long term damage is; how it shortens life expectancy and quality of life, etc. Then ask her to try to understand the situation from your viewpoint and tell her your concerns. Ask her if she feels it is a problem at all.
If she feels it is a problem in any way, then you have a toe-hold to being able to find the right sort of help for her and be supportive.
If she says it's not then it may be time for you to move on and find someone sober enough to appreciate your caring ways.
Do check out the information on how long it takes to get sober and be sure to ask her when she's not under the influence .
GOOD LUCK! BE STRONG AND BRAVE.
2006-09-18 12:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by Penelys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Hi -sorry me again!) it does sound like she has a bit of a problem. and maybeshe knows it but gets aggressive when you mention it as she is not ready to admit it or think about it. Is there any way you could get her to talk to someone - like get some professional help for her?
If she loves you I really think she would not shout at you when you are only concerned. I dont think it is fair, and nothing like that can be excused just because she has a problem shouldnt mean that you suffer or put up with her shouting etc.
If it was me I would be asking myself if that person was worth it, is she worth all the hassle? and does she love you in the same way? If she says she does then she will address her problem (definitely a problem if still drinking with a hangover and getting uptight when confronted) and if she loves you she would get some help or at the very least accept that it is worrying you, and try to talk to you about it. hope it works out
2006-09-18 12:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by festivalchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is an alcoholic. The best thing you can do is an intervention to get her to face that she has a problem. You would get her family and friends together. Tell her how much everyone cares about her and let her know she has an illness that needs treatment. If she is willing, there are many programs and places that can help. If this isn't feasible you will have to do tough love on your own. Either she gets help or you walk away from your relationship. This may sound harsh, but it is the only way. You will ruin your life living with an alcoholic, it won't get any better unless she gets help and sticks to the program.
2006-09-18 12:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you cant do anything unless she realises how bad she has become herself. I'd try a tough love approach. Tell her unless she sees someone about it you will be leaving her because you cant bear to watch her destroy herself. If you stay she'll think everything is ok so it has to be done. She will hopefully then realise how serious things are and do something about it. It isnt going to be easy though, when people drink that much its a form of escapism and you need to make sure it isnt you she's trying to escape from!! Good luck. A lot of people will tell you once an alcoholic always an alcoholic but thats not true, my husband used to drink to extreme but he changed for me when I said I couldnt take it anymore. He is very well behaved now.
2006-09-18 12:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you have to realise is this is an addiction. She can't just stop! It has to be treated the same way any other addiction is. Don't force the issue but be honest and open with her about your concerns, think back to a time when you first noticed the increased drinking and what might have triggered it. She has to want to do it. Don't encourage it, ie; don't drink with her.....don't buy it for her, try to prolong the non alcoholic drinks such as get up and make a cup of tea when you think she is about to go to the kitchen for the bottle...rekindle the romance...keep her busy....
talk to some one you trust FOR YOU!!...Good luck
2006-09-18 12:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by daffodil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really do anything until she acknowledges the fact that she has a drink problem. When she does that, you can help her by sticking by and encouraging her.
In the meantime, can you do activities that keep you both away from alcohol?
I suspect her aggression is a side effect of the alcohol and she's not doing herself any favours by continuing to drink as much as she does.
I hope she comes to her senses sooner rather than later and that you stand by and support her through it.
Good luck!!!
2006-09-18 11:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by The Findleys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this problem with my boyfriend so I know how you feel and my heart goes out to you. If you really love her and want to stay, your in for a tough time. Things won't change unless she wants to change - and she probably doesn't. All you can do is say that you are leaving her unless she gets help (AA). She probably is in denial and completely controlled by alchohol so even if she does get help, its a long hard struggle.
To be honest its not worth it, leave and have a life and let her get on with hers.
Best of luck and I wished I could be more helpful.
2006-09-18 12:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try giving an ultimatum...Maybe when she sees that you're serious about the problem, she'll try to get better. Try talking to her when she's sober(if she ever is), so she can comprehend what you are saying to her. Good Luck! It won't get any better if you just stay with her.
2006-09-18 11:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by Brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drink as much as she drinks every time .
2006-09-18 11:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by Kiamehr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋