while me and my partner are having sex, i find it hard to enjoy. don't get me wrong he's very good, but i think about the other women he's been with and wonder if their better than me. he's always telling me that he enjoys have sex with me and how much he loves my body but i find it hard to believe..i compare myself to other women very often..i believe this could be caused because i have low self esteem myself. can someone please help me!
2006-09-18 04:50:19 · 6 answers · asked by Ultimate Diva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we've both had other sexual partners but he doesnt act the way i do
2006-09-18 04:50:47 · update #1
you already know the answer - you have low self-esteem
don't compare yourself to other women. every person is unique so it's a bit ridiculous actually. If he wants to be with you than obviously he likes you for who you are!!
2006-09-18 04:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by bregweidd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like you have low self esteem, and this is an issue you are going to have to explore for yourself.
The one thing you do not want to do, and that is keep asking him if someone is better than you.
A man wants a confident woman in and outside of the bedroom.
Take him at his word when he tells you that he enjoys being with you.
Think before you speak, and breathe.
If you have low self esteem, then you are probably not feeling too attractive about your body, you really should explore your own self, and find out what it is exactly that you are insecure with.
There are ways to get over this including talking to a sex therapists, they can help you get acquainted with your self image and actually appreciate what you have to offer your partner.
2006-09-18 05:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound like you were emotionally ready for sexual relations with him yet. Sex is not just physical. It should not make you feel like that. It should bond two people who love each other. Some younger people associate liking someone a lot or taking a relationship to the next level with needing to have sex. When you are truly ready and love someone you will not feel that way. You do sound like you have low self-esteem. Try reading some books on self-esteem and relationships.
2006-09-18 05:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it.
You have had other guys, he has had other guys. You don't need to compare how each of your other BFs were.
oh, you didn't know about the other guys?
Sorry.
2006-09-18 05:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve answerd your own question
2006-09-18 05:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by traveller 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be who you are and not who you thinks he wants you to be.
2006-09-18 04:56:17 · answer #6 · answered by norwood 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋