My husband is in the process of getting over porn because he says he doesnt like it anymore and he knows that I dont like it. He trying not to look up stuff on the internet..etc. But is it still okay for him to start looking up movies that have "great sex scenes" in them??? Or will this just add to his pevious addiction???
2006-09-18 04:47:23 · 40 answers · asked by **What??** 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you both should pray about it God will take that addiction away from him he shouldnt even be watching the great sex scene movies they are an open widow to the porn!
2006-09-18 04:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looking at movies that have "great sex scenes" may be ok for him or it may not. It depends on how bad his addiction to porn is.
One thing you can do is depedning upon your sex life, the two of you can make keep it hot by doing things like scenarios.
The doctor and patient giving each other naughty exams.
The cop and the hooker, all you need is a pair of hand cuffs and two dirty minds.
The naughty school girl and the principal, I don't have to tell you what to do here.
If you start to live out some of his as well as your sexual fantisies with each other, the need for porn will simply go away! My wife and I haven't seen a porno in at least 10 years! We talk openly about what we want and enjoy and then try different things.
I wish you luck.
2006-09-18 07:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there are only degrees of porn addiction and that you can't totally get it off your mind as a man. You can move him to a lesser degree, but there is no way he is dropping porn altogether. I just recently found a new girlfriend and she is so adventurous in our sex life that I haven't felt the need to sit down at the computer in two months. Maybe this can work for you. BTW, I still think about porn every now and then, so I am proof that you can decrease the importance of it in your life.
And for all these people telling you to pray and that porn is a sin, forget that crap and face reality. Pornography is an industry that will never go away....it is too lucrative.
2006-09-18 04:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like an addict you must remove the sources and make it difficult to feed the cravings. Get rid of the internet for a while. Switch from satellite to basic cable or no cable at all. View only family style movies. If he wants this stuff he will have to go way out of his way to get it. Eventually, that will grow old. It takes 22 days to start a new habit and break an old one. It is a diet of the mind. In the mean time give the man all the sex he can get .
2006-09-18 05:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has an addiction to porn, this will probally add fuel to the fire. Porn is porn! Anything with sex in it is porn. If he's trying to quit watching it, he needs to quit it all! The only way my husband was able to stop watching that crap was for us to get rid of the computer! It makes it easier for him and a lot better on me. I don't have to worry if he's sneaking around watching it and he doesn't have the temptation!
2006-09-18 05:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by faith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Porn is porn. This is an all or nothing situation. No exemptions. ITwould be like an alcoholic giving up drinking except for drinks with a great taste to them. The great sex scenes are especially dangerous. They are compelling and will draw him back in. Good luck to him. Bravo to you for your support.
2006-09-18 04:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend you and your husband go to counseling. I assume "getting over porn" means recovery from a pornography addiction. Pornography addiction includes much more than just looking at pornography. It is a sexual addiction that must be stopped COLD TURKEY. I suggest 2 books for you and your husband: "Treating Pornography Addiction: The Essential Tools for Recovery"- by Kevin B. Skinner Ph.D and "In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior"- by Patrick Carnes, David L. Delmonico, Elizabeth Griffin & Joseph Moriarity/
2006-09-18 04:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi again S J. Why would you want him to completely give up porn??? You shouldn't be afraid or embarrassed about watching porn with him once in a while. If he is watching it constantly I can understand you wanting him to watch less of it. There is much more to life than porn. But sex is a large part of life, especially between the ages of 20-50 when you are in your prime.
2006-09-18 06:51:31 · answer #8 · answered by joey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men are very visually stimulated creatures. The fact that he likes to look at sexy things isn't a problem unless you two make it a problem. You haven't told us why he claims to not like porn anymore, which is a critical detail. You also haven't explained exactly why you don't like it . Are you churchy people or do you have bad self-esteem because you don't look like the porn chicks? Or do you think it is "degrading to women"?
Maybe you should stop trying to control what makes your husband a man and adopt the attitude that you don't care what gets him cranked up so long as he comes home to do it with you.
2006-09-18 04:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's an addiction. Tryign to find soct core porn is still porn. He needs professional help. Also it might help if the two of you talked about ways to perhaps enhance certain aspects of your own lovemaking. Not necesarrily the outright filth of porn but perhaps some naughty erotica.
2006-09-18 04:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by Toxic Buddah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋