me and my boyfriend are thinking about advancing our relationship some, tho the problem is, im not really sure if he is or not, tho it was his idea. and i am his second girlfriend, tho im his first on everything else, and well we havent dont anything expept kissing. and i want to go further into our relationship, but i am afraid that it might have a negative effect on both of use, and we both have realized that. and another thing, im not sure if he exactly knows how to do what we have been talking about (fingering), and i think it will be awkward. so im like lost on all of this...some one plz help...
2006-09-18 04:37:29 · 8 answers · asked by thana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are talking about getting more sexual you are not ready yet. I have read your other questions and the tone of this letter indicates that you are not emotionally ready. Taking your relationship to the next level does not have to be sexual. It can meam making a further commitment to each other. To talk about your future together and start planning your future.
Please hold off on sexual relations until you are both emotionally ready. It can ruin a relationship.
2006-09-18 04:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old you are but... you sound young. Please re-think your decision to go further. The uncertainty you feel is a warning flag that's signaling you to "STAY AWAY/DO NOT PASS GO!". If you continue with your plans you will regret it. Too many people have been in the exact situation/experience with the same negative results. Heartache after a break up, emotional dissatisfaction, regret, pregnancy, STD's etc. It's not that deep... TRUST!
You have your whole life in front of you. Slow down, complete your education and secure a great job and focus on your carrer goals. You'll meet a man who'll love you and want to be your husband one day... that's when the time will be right. WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE.
What you're feeling for this guy is natural however, the timing and circumstances is not appropriate. You must think very carefully about the decsions you're making (especially sexually) because they can and will effect you the rest of your life.
2006-09-18 12:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly want to go farther then start caressing him in places that will arouse him. If he gets aroused,,,and you will know that then he is ready to start fingering you or even a little oral sex too Sounds like you are ready tho.
2006-09-18 11:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
unless you are his one and only girlfriend, you dont want to advance the relationship, you dont have one. if you have any doubts, follow your instincts and hold off. you wont win him from her and in actuality he is cheating you both ... move on and find someone who is devoted to only you
2006-09-18 11:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? You don't PLAN these things, they just sort of happen when you and your partner are BOTH READY.
So, basically, if you have to ask, you are not ready.
2006-09-18 11:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long does it take to boil an egg? That's is how long your relationship will last if you take it further.
2006-09-18 11:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ah, what is a finger of two between friends?
:-)
2006-09-18 11:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take your time to get ready to do it.
2006-09-18 11:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by Pitambri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋