husbands sexually. I've been married 15 years my wife says it's normal..Helps her get excited. I dont like it at all..Is this a common occurance?
2006-09-18 04:31:55 · 19 answers · asked by Tommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO!!
2006-09-18 04:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by **What??** 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been Married for 13 years and LOVE my Hubby. Why would I want to think of another man when I'm making love to my Honey? Maybe you should talk to her and let her know it is really bothering you. You should start to do different things to her in the bedroom. Why don't you ask her what she would like for you to do for her and you express what you would like for her to do for you. I am not your wife but to me it doesn't seem normal to be thinking of someone else. You should also ask her how would she fill if you were thinking of another women while having intercourse with her? You both need to take the time just for each other. Leave the world behind you and explore your wife like you have never done before. Sex is a very important part of a marriage and you both need to enjoy it together.. I wish both of you the best....
2006-09-18 04:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by hazelshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been married thirteen years and with my husband almost sixteen and I can honestly say NO, NEVER. I do find other men attractive and may even fantasize about them sometimes, but when it is me and him there is no one else in the room.
When you really love someone and after all the lust is gone (like when you first met) it is just being with that person. No matter what they look like or if they've gained weight, etc. I would have a big problem with it if it was me. It is disrespectful to you and your relationship. Also, unlike what some people may say, it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. There is something wrong with her and obviously her feeling on your marriage. You deserve better, anyone does!
2006-09-18 04:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by sceptileptic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I do think it is normal. And unfortunately, there's nothing you can really do about it... other than, make her want to think about you, and have thoughts of you get her excited. Do whatever it takes... romantic weekends, sitting and reminiscing about the crazy/sexy times you guys had when you were younger. Also, if I were your wife, I wouldn't really share that I'm having these thoughts with my husband and I sure as heck hope she's not shouting out other mens names in bed while having sex... she needs to have some common courtesy and respect for your feelings as well. Good luck!
2006-09-18 04:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by superrix83 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not a lady, but yes I fantasize about men when I'm making love to my wife.....it really gets me excited to replay in my mind some of the times I've had with men....makes me harder than ever for my wife.....
2006-09-18 04:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by bimale694u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most ladies have fantasies that they don't share with their hubbies for just this reason. Even though they love them totally, it still is arousing for them to imagine an another man who is more handsome, sexier, has a larger organ and does things to them they would have never had happen with their man.
If a man is insecure and he learns about these fantasies, often times he will become upset, just like you have.
Let me ask you a question. Have you ever fantasiezed about a woman other than your wife when you have been in bed with her or when you masturbate when she is not around.
I bet that you have and you haven't shared this with her either.
2006-09-18 04:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by orygunduk1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It IS normal, YES. It doesn't mean you love your partner any less. It's just a fantasy thing. You've been married 15 years. It's not like she's going to divorce you for these guys she is fantasizing about. And I doubt this happens EVERY time you had sex. So, I wouldn't worry about it.
2006-09-18 04:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by Jenna 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yet i am still young and just about to be married i couldn't imagine my self thinking of another man on;y b/c if i was why would i be with the man i am with, To me it makes no scence. Maybe you should ask her if she is willing to try something new to spice things up if you have not already done this.
2006-09-18 05:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is...There might be a lot of things in other guys which might be attractive to a woman... As long as only thinking is concerned, i guess its ok... But if it goes beyond that.... Thats the time to get your wife in control :-)
2006-09-18 04:34:39 · answer #9 · answered by Little Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 15 years of marriage sure its normal doesn't mean she loves you any less its just a fantasy so let her enjoy it
2006-09-18 04:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by Amy M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I would be to afraid that I called out the wrong name at a critical moment. Start calling her a different name and see how she likes it.
2006-09-18 04:41:53 · answer #11 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋