What do you guys think about threesomes?

Question

Me and my husband decided to have a threesome I wonder will it make things better for us or worse. It really has my husband excited and he thinks it will give us something fun to do because he said everything we do we have done over and over.

Answer 1

Can i join in too.... Gee.. i just hope that i was your husband...

It'll be very greatful to have a wife like you honey..

Answer 2

Loved it!

BUT...

1) you have to be cool with it.
It sounds like he's more excited than you. I don't think that he's doing this because you can't satisfy him, and NEITHER SHOULD YOU. If you are still uncomfortable with it, let him know. If he loves you like I think he does, he'll be understanding. However, he will be disappointed. Be ready and don't take it personally.
2) you have to trust person #3.
While there are many avenues you can go down for this, you really need to do it with someone you can trust. A friend. Preferably single, otherwise you run the risk of becoming a swinger, which is the subject of a different question.
3) YOU HAVE TO SET BOUNDARIES.
...cuz nothing's worse than finding your hubby and person #3 in bed, starting without you. While you were at work. Conversely, if it's a BGB 3some, you have to make sure you don't fall for this guy and decide to keep him around for "other reasons". Trust is key here, and if things seem to be going in a certain direction, STOP. Deal with the relationship issue, then continue.

Other than that 3somes (as well as 4somes and orgies) can be a LOT of fun. Go for it, and send us all pics. :)

Answer 3

My husband and I pondered the possibility of adding another female to one of our romps. After some serious evaluation - and discussion about it - we decided against it.

Many men, my husband included, have a fantasy of being with two women at once. But when you are married, the whole monogamy thing comes into play. As much as I wanted to do something to make his fantasy a reality - both of us agreed that the lasting emotional effects would not be worth the temporary physical pleasure.

Not to mention, the possibility of contracting a disease from the new partner. And, then there was the concern that if we crossed that line, what else would it lead to?

Make sure you and your hubby know what you are getting into before you try it.

Answer 4

My wife and I have been swinging for several years, both with couples and in threesomes (both MFM and FMF). As long as both of you are secure in yourself and in your relationship, thus there is not the underpinnings of jealousy (jealousy is insecurity), then you'll have a great time. We certainly do. Our marriage and sex between us was already fantastic. Living our fantasies has made it even better.

But, for some, fantasies are better left just that.

Before you do it I recommend reading the Swinger Advice section on The Swingers Board. There is allot of good information there to consider and talk about first.

Answer 5

I know people who have had threesomes and they are not happy. As a matter of fact, they are miserable. It doesn't do anything except make the other person jealous. It is cheating so you have to ask yourself if you are able to accept him being with other women, men, or whatever. Your husband is excited because you are giving him permission to cheat. You should have more respect for yourself.

Answer 6

I have had both types of 3somes with my wife, Both MMF and FFM. Both were very enjoyable in their own ways. The two girls was erotic because of there being two girls pleasuring me, and my wife got to try sex with a girl at the same time. When I and another man entertained my wife it was fun because we started counting the number of times we could cause her to orgasm. 19 times that night :) We held off our own just to drive her wild.

They are very fun but it truly relies on both people not being jealous and having issues like did you like her better than me? It is not about that, and actually, that night, each of you may like the other person better because it is new. Not because of love, just a simple sex thing.

So enjoy both types. But ensure it is kept as fun. Don't ruin it with jealous questions afterwords.

Answer 7

bringing someone in your bedroom only confuses things, adds complication and jealousy. Every husband and boyfriend asks that question, but they do not even think about the end result. The meer fact that you had to ask other people's opinion should tell you that you are uncomfortable with it. tell him no, if he persists tell him the other person can be a man, he see how he feels then. Men have this diluted image, that women always want to be with other women, NOT TRUE

Answer 8

Why did you agree to it if you weren't sure?

Now that you've agreed, I don't think you should back out. Backing out will have a bad effect on your husband's ability to trust you.

But go slow. Make sure you're both okay with everything before it happens.

Answer 9

its going to be a blast from him-- two women, and after that ,ask for a threesome with you, him ,and another guy and then see if he gets that excited , gotta love open sex, been there done that with a foursome, swapping partners and our relationship lasted awhile but in the end we went our seperate ways--

Answer 10

Go into it with your eyes open. Know it is not for a relationship but only the contact. Communicate to everyone involved that this is not to find someone else. If anyone has second thoughts don't do it.

Answer 11

HEY MAMA.. I AM ALL FOR IT.. AS LONG AS THE MAN DOESNT GET CARRIED AWAY AND THINK THINGS ARE JUST TO EASY NOW SO GO AND DO EVERYTHING IN SIGHT.. IF YOU THINK IT WILL WORK THINGS OUT BETTER THAN GO FOR IT.. IF YOU NEED A THIRD I AM HERE FOR YA.. BUT DONT THINK IT WILL BE YOUR LAST IF YOU DO IT.. LOVE THE FACT THAT YOU ARE OPEN FOR THAT THOUGH