How much education matters while marrying?

Question

I am MBA & fell in love with a girl when she was doing high school. we broke off and met again after 4 years. I think i really love her. But problem is that she is just high school passed and has wasted 6 years over nothing just staying idle and foolling around. Even she loves me still. My family is very trasitional one where education, values matter. I am very confuse and worried for my future. please give genuine responses.

Answer 1

Proof read dammit.

Answer 2

The number of sheepskins on a wall doesn't necessarily show how smart or knowledgeable a person really is. I've attended college, but my wife of 29+ years never graduated high school. Yet she is the go to person for a whole cadre of fellow cat breeders in our area on questions regarding health, medicine, birth, and evaluation of the animals we breed. Including several who have years more experience than my wife does. She has been called out at all hours of the day and night to midwife the delivery of kittens all over the LA area. She also home schools our youngest son, and is a director on our local water district board. Another example of her brilliance in the face of lacking formal education came a few years ago when my brother who is a Masters of Aerospace Engineering from USC had to call my undiplomad wife and ask her how to bake a potato!
I get the suspicion that there is a little envy on your part regarding your loves free spirit versus the years of hard work you must have spent earning your MBA. But don't discount your loves intellectual capabilities simply because she hasn't a diploma to back it up. If you really love her, something in her mind, and spirit must have touched you, not just her looks. Can you talk to her? I mean truly deeply talk to her? Perhaps her free spirit is just the compliment to your more button down life you might secretly need. I'd say propose. If she loves you too as you say, and she says yes to your proposal, get married. It is, after all, your life! You need to build it, and live it as you see fit. With who you choose to live it with. Even a traditional values family, such as how you describe yours, will come to accept your love when they see how happy you are together, and they see that she is as capable as any one of them, sheepskin of not.

Answer 3

Education, Values, religion, all matter in the equality of a relationship. If you hold your MBA out as "who you are" over just being normal.

I think because YOU make and issue of your education, IT will be an ISSUE in any potential relationship.

You are focused on her "6 years of waste".. Frankly, that's not starting out on a good footing.

Answer 4

It would seem like you already have answered your own question. She seems to be in a stage of having fun and not settling down for one. Maybe she goes to school, maybe she doesn't. I am 25 and just starting to go to college. Its hard to judge someone by just there education, but if that is important to you and especially your family, then don't settle for less. At least stay friends if you can, and maybe things will be different down the road. I wouldn't sit around and wait either. Pursue your career and and go for what you want. I can speak from experience that it sucks to settle for less when it comes to women. You know you want more, but you take it anyway because you feel lonely or like you need someone. Take it slow and ask yourself what are the qualities you want, and look for that. Hell, maybe she will find you, you never know.

Answer 5

I think that in your situation, education will matter. I don't think a young girl with just a high school education will fit in with your peers, who are much better educated, have great jobs, earn a lot more money, and probably due to all these factors, much more refined. She will probably have a hard time just carrying on a meaningful conversation with your peers, especially at office parties, etc. Even though you may love her, I think practically, that you will probably find yourself a little embarassed to introduce her to friends and colleagues.

Answer 6

hi there. i have my MA, and my last 2 BFs have only passed high school. my current bf is amazing and incredibly knowledgable. in my situation our conversations are so in depth and he is SO smart that the piece of paper doesn't matter for me, as i "know" it should. although the degree shouldn't matter the amount of intelligence does. can you have a conversation with her? or are you only attracted to her? is it a physical thing? or does she have more to offer? have you 2 dated? the thing is that if she's wasted 6 years doing nothing, and not building a career or anything of the sort, you might want to second guess getting into a relationship with her. i mean you have your mba, and you're probably goal oriented. that might cause problems if the relationship progresses...in the manner that you'd have to support her, and she might have confidence issues thinking she's not good enough, etc...maybe you can encourage her to get back in school??

Answer 7

You are lucky to have a supportive and ambitious family. Did she have the same encouragement and funds with which to accomplish her goals or did she have to work to support herself. If you really love her and she is interested in her personal development then why don't you enable her to accomplish it. With an MBA you should be able to afford to educate your wife. Since your family is so traditional and holds to its values then they shouldn't have any problem being supportive either. Cut your apron strings.

Answer 8

You have an MBA and your spelling is horrible, sounds like she might be the girl for you.

Answer 9

Do you marry with education?

Answer 10

She should do a bit more on her education