Do you believe in "till death do you part", and "for better or worse"?

Question

Do people really intend to honor marital vows today. Or are vows simply viewed as ceremonial.

Due to personal experience, the experiences of friends and family, I think that people get married too easily now a days. There should be some trepidation and honest soul searching first. I think people mainly get married to fulfull the universal desire for belonging, but aren't really mature enough yet to make such a commitment. And celebrities are the worst! I think they should just shack up!

Well put, Mleigh23

Answer 1

Yes, I do believe in those concepts.. Divorce is often a way people use to avoid the "for better or worse" stuff.

Marriages go in cycle and take work. REAL WORK. My wife and I separated and were divorced for 2 years because she was having some major emotional issues and didn't want to work on the relationship. I gave it time, the relationship healed and we got back together.. People like instant gratification. No fault divorce is just that. A temporary fix to personality issues.

I think divorce should be much harder to obtain, except in situations of abuse or addictionl..

Answer 2

I think they are very important otherwise why would you even get married. Whats the point? I think it takes much more discipline to stay true to your soul mate and that is a good thing. I think its wonderful to hear a very old couple say they have been married 50 years + and still happy. To me it almost an honor to be around them. It takes very little to destroy a relationship and merely a second to screw it up. The thing is, were human and are subject to problematic times in a relationship and marriage. If neither of you are willing to work things out before marriage (and you should talk about these things LONG before you get married by the way) how do you expect it to work when you have tied the knot? It only gets more difficult with kids and two separate lives trying to do different things. So in answer to your question, I do believe as long as both parties are willing to work at things, make it last and commit long before they take the vows death do us part will be possible.

Answer 3

I firmly believe that people should honor their marriage vows and not just see them as something ceremonial. If one is not willing to be in a marriage for the long haul, through sicknesses, bad times, and bumps that life gives us along the way then I dont think they should commit themselves to that one person. What is the point of taking a vow and making a promise before God, if you dont 100% intend to keep it.
I think a lack of taking vows seriously is what has broken up so many marriages - marriage vows don't mean" I'll do my part as long as your doing yours , or as long as I feel your giving me whats due to me", they mean sticking by the others side 100% and supporting them through out life , even in the times when you may not want to, and most of all remembering that the grass isnt greener on the other side.

Answer 4

There should be a clause in the vows that states
only if each partner treats the other with respect,honesty,and dignity. That's what I think.
So basically they way they are written I would say No. When We got married we didn't use those old fashioned vows . Ours centered more on the respect angle. And to this day ,He trys to give me that crap about till death due us part and better or worse. And I tell him that wasn't in our agreement. Straightens things out real quick when they know you expect them to treat you with respect, or you'll walk.

Answer 5

People who have never been married don't really know what it's like. I'm talking about the day to day drudgery of sharing the bathroom and everything else. The issue is that it is much easier to get divorced, society accepts it more now and women are now bread-winners themselves and don't have to rely on the man's income. Should the vows be taken seriously? Absolutely.

Answer 6

I can't speak for other people, but I will speak for myself. Death do us part is very serious and so is better or worse. There are so many good and bad days, and if you are not truely friends then it's going to be hard to keep those vows. I strongly believe in marriage and all that it stands for. I hope everyone else could find that too.

Answer 7

I believe in till death do you part and for better and worse. It really depends on each individual. I honor my partner and we are not even married yet. People do still honor them. My father passed away 7 years ago, and my mother still goes to bed at night with his picture by her cheek. She has no thrive for another mans affection. I see myself as my mother, that I will be faithful till the end, but for those whom don't like to be alone could see it in a different perspective. They should not be viewed as just ceremonial. And I'm not the type of person that goes to church. In fact I don't go at all. As I said, it depends on each individual.

Answer 8

I agree when you say I do it means forever under any situation. I think people these days def get married to fast and thats a lot of the problem I know that saying I do is one of the hardest thing in world to stick by!!! So when you say I do it means for ever and no matter whats going on.

Answer 9

People have a very broad definition of what they mean by these vows.. Like "for better or worse...until I just cant take it anymore" and "till death do you part... unless I am considering the possiblitly of speeding up the process."

Answer 10

They intend on it in the beginning but things happen and those vows go out the window. Unfortunately