This girl and me were really close, we would stay up till 12 in the mornin talkin sometime, now that mite not be alot, but it is for her, she is homeschooled, I go to public school. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said Idk maybe , and REALLy backed off, she seemed nervous around me, I thought she just didnt wanna hurt my feelings, but she told her friends, she just wants to see if I can stick with her. Well we got further and further apart, until I couldnt stand it anymore and I emailed her, spilled my guts, and asked her to be brutally honest on how she fealt about me, heres what she said
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
Now, When I read that two things come to mind. One, that she is just trying to be nice. But on the other hand, she is just scared, because she has never had a bf b4, and weve been friends since age 7.
But now she seems more comfortable around me, like now she talks more, and seems more comfortable, but then she'll seem like she wants me, I can tell by the way she looks, and the way she acts, she just seems really sad, and down,
Oh yeah, and she told her mom , that she is just really really scared, and that she does like me, but she told her friends she just dont want to hurt my feelings, now her and her mom are really close, but so are her and her friends, Do you think she likes me, or is just letting me down easy?
And I am respecting her wishes, I emailed her and told her that I respect her decision, and we havent talked about it since.
But I really really do care for her, I wake up and she's the first thing I think about, I go to sleep and Fall asleep thinking about her. I mean I know I'm only 15, but I really do love her, and would do anything in this world to be with her. I've tried moving on, I've been trying to do that, but I just can't. Even though I am am guy, yes I have cried numerous time for her, and about her. I mean, I'm not ugly, I'm fit, and I'm not a big geek or anything, so what gives? I really do love her, what should I do?
2006-09-18 04:03:32 · 11 answers · asked by robinson z 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
And, yes, her mom likes me, she told me that she is encouraging her daughter to date me, she also said that it was really hard for her daughter to sent that email, but in the mean time, she is really flirty with this other guy.
2006-09-18 04:04:26 · update #1
You give waaaaaaayyyy too much thought into this situation. If a girl really wants to be with you, she will. Also, it'll happen in it's own time. If you rush things or pressure her you'll lose her.
2006-09-18 04:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by shizzlechit 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is very sweet that you care so much for her. I think she is just playing hard to get or maybe she would like you to be harder to get. Some girls for whatever reason like guys that are a challenge to them. You have obviously done everything else you can do but just try to act uninterested and see what happens. If she really does like you then she'll do whatever she can to get your attention back. Try seeing or showing interest in someone else and see how she responds. It is clearly the only other option since you have already tried the opposite. Girls are crazy in the head at 15 sometimes. I know, me and my husband started dating when I was 15 and I put him through hell.
2006-09-18 11:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by sceptileptic 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To me it sounds like she probably likes you but is scared. My husband and I first started dating when we were about your age (16, we are 25 now), and he was the first to realize that he was in love with me, and I know it scared the crap out of me and I actually broke up with him for a while (just a couple of weeks then I realized how dumb I was!) Give her some space, and if she truly likes you she'll come around. Keep in touch as friends and if she decides she wants more than it'll happen in its own time. Good luck to you!
2006-09-18 11:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by chelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend like she aksed you to be. Is she scared? Propbably, you are both very young. She doesnt know what she wants in life, and perhaps what it comes down to is that she does not want to complicate it.
Just chill, be friends. You might invite her a nd some of her friends with you and some of your friends to the movies. That might put her at ease and you can sit by her.
2006-09-18 11:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by aiji.tenchijin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is this under pg??anyway...if you do like her just be patient, she maybe justs wants to be friends and you are just thinking way to much about this. Keep close to her, be there for her, maybe eventually she'll say yes and go out with you. You have the mother on your side so that should be a plus!
2006-09-18 11:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes just worried that if the relationship fails u cant ever go back to being the gr8 friends u were. Personally if i liked someone and we were already friends i would go for it. Ask her what her reasons are and lay it all out on the table.
2006-09-18 11:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, sometimes you just have to wait. You are only 15. Just as her if she wants to be your girlfriend. if not tell her that is fine. But you need to move on and you hope that you guys can be Friends. I have found in relationships, sometimes it is better to just be friends then not be friends at all. Just ask her the truth.
2006-09-18 11:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that was really really long.
anyhoo, i say back off for good. let her have her space shes not ready for dating yet and you are going to have to be patient.
you guys are only 15. trust me you have plenty of time to date ahead of you. I take it as this is your 1 st crush and thats why it hurts so much, but you will get your heart broken many many more times my friend, so unfortuently welcome to the real world
2006-09-18 11:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jenster*is*flipping*you*off 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her sometime, she might just be telling her mom what she wants to hear. Girls are usually more honest with their friends.
2006-09-18 11:08:39 · answer #9 · answered by rye252000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be happy as friends for now if it is gonna be more it will work it self out if you like her be her friend a let her know your there
2006-09-18 12:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by live,laugh,love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋