Should you feel guilty about keeping in touch with your loved one without physical intimacy with the other person.
2006-09-18 03:31:33 · 12 answers · asked by Rajendra K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, you should feel guilty. It is an "emotional affair." You are robbing the one who made a commitment to you. The emotional side of an affair is the most devastating. You have no right to take the sanctity of your marriage to a stranger. You are also setting up a very dangerous situation. The 'loved one (bad description)" is the first person you will call when you are having differences with your spouse. You also are preventing full intimacy from developing in your marriage: undermining its success from the very beginning. You should eliminate all relationships of the sort when you get married. Marriage is full commitment. You don't leave one foot out the door.
2006-09-18 03:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by georgia b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, Rajendra. The very foundation of the marriage is based on mutual trust and inter-personal confidence. Marrying one and loving another with physical intimacy has no meaning at all in the dictionary of the marriage. 'Keeping in touch with your loved one without physical intimacy with other person' gives the impression that something is intentionally hidden. Love is a multi-dimensional concept. Love with parents, brothers and sisters, friends and colleagues, neighbours and acquaintances, groups and religions and at last but not least with the beloved one - are all different kinds of love. All these aspects of love are based upon mutual trust. When you invite your lover for coffee, she never suspects you that you would mix poison in the coffee offered to her. Even after marriage, if your love is true and unsuspecting with another, you need not feel guilty. You should not only feel guiltless but you should also behave with no guilt. Your actions should prove your intentions.
2006-09-18 19:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by SRIRANGAM G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to maintain a good relationship with your existing spouse.
If your spouse knows about your loved one ( and your relationship), then make the spouse aware that the ex is around. also keep re-inforcing your relationship with your spouse. Basically a renewed effort on Trust building but dont over-do it.
if your spouse is not aware, its easier to move away quietly from the ex.
If your relationship with your spouse is "under review", sometimes the chance meeting of "ex" can give the much needed impetus.
ofcourse , everything depends on why you and the "ex" separated becoz one would be a complete idiot to make the same mistake twice.
2006-09-18 11:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair to your wife that you are seeing your loved ones. But i mean who do you card about most? and how do you still ahve feelings for this other loved one? I mean get your self in thinking mode there must be a reason why you still love her. ask yourself why do i love her and if the answer is because she broke up with me and i miss her don't lose your wife please. don't get comfused with your mind telling you one thing but your heart is set on your wife.
2006-09-18 10:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON"T DO IT, if your married then the person you are married to is your life. You can tell him/her any and everything. You don't need an old loved one to talk to. You don't want any confusion with your partner about who you really love. Bottom line, stay true to your life partner and don't do things that may jeopardize the relationship...................Doctor J@e
2006-09-18 10:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning it then you should feel guilty.. How would you feel if your husband kept in touch with his first love.. I know I'd be asking questions..and kicking a*ss..
2006-09-18 10:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No of course not, if you love someone, by all means keep them as close as possible, keep them in your life for as long as you possibly can, at least if you are able to keep them as friends......you at least still have them in your life.
2006-09-18 10:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
one should not have two love's,especially married one's,stick with your wife/husband
2006-09-18 10:33:54 · answer #8 · answered by steve 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you check to see if her t*ts still look real good?
2006-09-18 10:37:00 · answer #9 · answered by Putt 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no but if you have nothing to hide,let your other no about her maybe they will become friends.Then you won't feel guilty about it.
2006-09-18 10:33:56 · answer #10 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋