What do you do when all pride has gone?

Question

I don't want to go into the details but I don't feel like I'm even a human being anymore as I've been hurt by the people I most loved and trusted in the world.

I'm so full of hate and anger I don't know where to turn, advice please.

Answer 1

" a man can stand alot as long as he can stand himself ", this is a very true fact, maybe you need to change from the inside to keep you strong on the outside.

By the way change the name, its offensive.

Answer 2

I can relate with how you feel, I once felt the same way.

But I did something after I though about it awhile and that is forgiveness.

Because I knew that that there were things in past that I had done that I had been forgiven for.

Don’t let your anger and hatred dictate your life, look at the world around you and know that some where someone else has it a lot harder than you.Tomorrow is a new day that is full of possibilities. you control your own life and its a matter of the person you want to be that will make a diffrence.

Answer 3

First thing i would do would be to take some time with myself..times like this is hard to trust anyone, when you have been hurt by the ppl you loved.

Just keep in mind not all people are the same, some are bad some are good.

Take a break..go to a place that gives you calm and stability..take time off, be alone with your thoughts. Do things you enjoy. Try to let go of the hate and anger. Keeping that inside you will eat you alive.

You are better than whatever happened to you.

Answer 4

Find yourself a good friend or even better a counsel to talk to. If you feel betrayed by everyone there must be a reason. Maybe, you take things more seriously than others. Talk to someone, that is the only thing that will help. Or sometimes it helps to just write down how you feel. Get a big notebook and just write down how you feel about everything and everybody. You can write all about the anger and hate you feel. Putting it on paper helps get it out of your heart. Keep it in notebook so you can go back and read it later if you want to. Put it in a place where nobody else will find it and read it.

Answer 5

You should never feel like you are worthless when other people hurt or mislead you. Remember, it is not your fault that someone else did something to you.
Bounce back from this ordeal! Do good for others and make others feel good. That is the best way to deal with that kind of hurt. Sure, you feel sorry for yourself, but in the long run, that is the worst way to deal with a problem.
Making others feel good and spreading joy can make you feel great. Do some volunteer work... even just something as simple as complimenting someone can make you feel better. Give it a shot!

Answer 6

I know you don't think this now but it's good your pride is gone. That means you are humbled, which means this is a good place for change. Don't fill your heart with hate & anger. It only leads to destruction. Turn to God & look inside yourself. You don't have control over what anyone or anything does to you. All you have control over is how you deal with it. So instead of looking at what they did to you or how they made you feel, look at it as an oppourtunity to become a better person for yourself. Because you will have to live with you for the rest of your life.

Answer 7

You know I feld the same way you did. and in a way still do All you can do at this moment is this Say bitterness will not enter my heart, and I will not feel betrayed. Nomatter what happens nomatter how you may feel that someone did turn their back on you in some way you have contributed to this by not stopping them at that time , by trusting them with your heart and soul, remmember what you seek exist you just needed to learn a lesson from this person and this person needed to learn something from you. See if we don't stop someone when we feel this person is wrong they end up being resentful towards us. Also when you constandty keep giving to someone and they don't share back with you . that causees resentment also. It always has to be 50 /50 or at least 30/50.

Answer 8

Well, when all your pride is gone you should rejoice.....god.

Obviously you are an prideful person. Not that I don't suffer with pride myself. Maybe you should turn to the one you mock so.

You'd have to explain the situation. Betrayal stings. No doubt about that. Why don't you think about what part you played in it. Especially since, if it's your friends you chose them. If it's family that gets deeper and you'll have to figure that out on your own.

Why don't you try and find humility. Learn to be humble.

Answer 9

You're not alone. People are hurt every day. There are lessons to be learnt and one of those is that you have come to a deeper understanding of the person who hurt you. Never allow them that power again.
The world isn't full of bad people, please remember that. Sometimes fools play games. And that is what they are, fools. Because they've destroyed your trust and your respect. You're a human being who obviously was too good for them. Your turn will come. All the best xxx

Answer 10

Well it has hard to answer this kind of question without any details, but you need to build your self esteem, if people have let you down you need to learn to rely on yourself and thus avoid disappointment never expect anything of anybody and they cannot let you down, surely there is someboy you are close to who you can talk to and discuss your feelings, this is the first step to dealing with feelings, they don't just go away you need to speak to somebody and work through them otherwise they will eat away at you and you will never be happy, what about going to your doc's and asking to speak to a counsellor, who are trained to help people deal with their problems and also have deal with any information you give them with complete confidentiality. Sometimes it is better to speak to somebody who does not know the people involved and can therefore give you an outsiders view which is totally unbiased. I hope you work thing's out.

Answer 11

Been there. Lots. First of all, it may be time for therapy. Trust me, it helps. Second, it doesn't hurt to just spend some alone time. If people are being hurtful, you may need to avoid people, to the extent possible. You may still have to go to work/school, but you can limit your interactions with everyone to the bare minimum. If everyone is going to be an @sshole, then they can do it without the pleasure of your company. You need to take some time to heal and to thicken up your skin. It may sound harsh, but it's necessary. And remember, you don't have to put up with anyone's crap just to be "nice".