My wife and I got married earlier this year. I ended a two year super mentally abusive marriage 2.5 years ago-i was the abused. Anyways, my current wife had one two year relationship and one one year relationship. She knows that these people calling her time to time bothers me. She insists conversations are very 'normal'. Both of the men are married. One of them i just found out has been being lewd, sending sexually charged emails and text messages. My wife told me about this the other day when this person then asked her to meet him in another state-she told him no way. My wife is very open and spontaneous - that is one of her many qualities i absolutely love. At times she likes to play with fire though. Unfortunately i know her ex-scumbag from college. My wife now agrees that she talking to this person is not a good idea. He wants to get into her panties as far as I am concerned. I sent the emails to his wife and ripped both of them new ones via a HATE MAIL.what else should i do?
2006-09-18 03:24:13 · 28 answers · asked by pagerDOWN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no she shouldnt of course... make this clear to her
2006-09-18 03:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is weird that she continues to be in touch with them, and I'm thinking she probably still has feelings for them.
Your wife should know better and nip this in the bud for everyone's sake - but yes, I think you should send them emails and let them know the contact must end. Keep it simple and to the point - don't swear or say anything that could be interrupted as immature.
Good luck!
2006-09-18 03:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you'll pardon my saying, so it's another typical mess, with a conglomerate of divorced people with screwed up lives remarrying and then having the karma of the past still existing at the present time. You're all wrong people, unless the divorces took place for reasons of unfaithfulness and the offended party remained faithful, themselves.
I don't believe that psychiatrists have their acts together; nevertheless I would recommned that you all go to visit some, for this precise reason - you'll be well suited for one another and you can at least feel like your're getting help!
2006-09-18 03:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is the relationship that they are having than no sheshouldn't talk to them. I talk to my ex, but it is simple and friendly and we were married for 16 years. If he ever pulled anything like that I would definitely end all ties. It is out of respect for you, her new husband, to not have contact. I would have done the same thing you did. The ball is really in her court now.
2006-09-18 03:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by ♥monamarie♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
look im divorced and have no contact with my x im married again and I have 2 sons by my first hubby ,now I do wish to discuss some things concerning his 2 boys i have raised alone but that is all ,but he dont care about them so I dont .No way she should not be talking to them at all you need to put your foot down ,thats not cool if she has children by them and its only about the kids different thing ,but if not she needs to close those books ,how can you trust her if this is going on ,ask he how she would like it .im sure she would not .please talk to her and tell her flat no more ,and then if the men dont stop then you and her go get a restraining against them .she should not even want to unless like I said kids are the reason only !!!and as for you handling this it is her fault she is the one to be angery at she dont have to answer there calls and she dont have to talk to them so dont blame them blame her first .its her she is to wild .make her stop !!!or tell her you will leave her .
2006-09-18 03:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't have any reason to keep in contact with her exes, especially if she is married and loves you.
You need to tell her that she is being very disrespectful to you and your feelings. And with the scum bag guy, if she doesn't tell him to leave her alone then you do it, you have the right to say something to him, considering you are her husband. But hate mail is probably not a good way to go, be the bigger person and act mature.
2006-09-18 03:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by Dre 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are posting this, you clearly have a problem with it, so I would say that no, she should not be talking to her ex's because it makes you uncomfortable. I would talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. Though you cannot control her and force her to stop, you can tell her that you feel it is threatening your relationship in terms of jealously and honesty. It is obvioulsy tainting some trust you have with her and other people and that you think it would be best to end contact all together.
2006-09-18 03:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by goldfish65398 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your wife was honest enought to tell u that he was saying and sending this stuff i thing that you should trust her!!She has realized that he is not the guy she can have casual conversations with. As far as people talking to their ex's i think it is ok as long as they are honest,up front and arent hiding when they talk on the phone!!
2006-09-18 03:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by ru2tipsy2c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to talk to any ex boyfriends/ male friends on the phone or email because it makes you feel uncomfortable... she should respect that... If she loves you and wants to make the marriage work she will give them up for you considering how you feel on the situation
2006-09-18 03:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say your wife is "open" and "spontaneous", and that is a quality you love about her. They ("they" being the Gods of marriage & divorce) say that the qualities that initially attract you to someone end up driving you nuts. Hmmm.
2006-09-18 03:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by Designchc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only time it's good for your wife to be talking to an EX is if they had kids. Other than that she needs to tell them it's time to let go...
2006-09-18 03:30:22 · answer #11 · answered by RIchard H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋