2006-09-18 03:15:07 · 27 answers · asked by ~*Raymonds World*~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you really love this guy, it doesnt matter what your mom says. you have to go with what your heart says. if you end up having a loving relationship, your mother will have to accept it. she wont stay mad at you. cheers.
2006-09-18 03:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's better able to support you, your mother or him? Who actually cares for you more?
That's a no brainer. Your mother. She probably sees things you don't see. Maybe she's just uptight and scared. Maybe she's wrong. Yet, why do you have to leave? How old are you?
More than likely that guy is all up in your head and you aren't even paying attention. Whereas your mom can probably see that he's all up in your head and your just hopeless. Knowing that if you leave with him, if he decides to keep you, he'll turn you against your mom. Like he has already.
the guy who said it depends on how good the sex is can get my dick in his mouth. Sex is the last thing that should influence your decisions. Don't make any decision ever in your life based on emotion. Use your brain. The second you stop using your brain and start making decisions based on emotions you will be looost.
If you don't like what I'm saying, hear me now and believe me later on.
2006-09-18 10:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by nathancarson23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you really stepped back to find out why your mom dislikes this guy? Does he treat you well, put your first, etc., or are you maybe choosing to not see him for what he really is?
Also, how old are you? Are you a mature experienced person who's had a chance to be out on your own a bit, or is this guy just a ticket to somewhere?
While I doubt your mom will really cut off all ties to you, I do think she is probably just worried and looking out for you.
If, however, you know for a fact that being with this guy is the right thing to do and you're leaving for the right reasons, and you're not a minor, then I'd say your mom will have to step back and give you a chance to prove your maturity.
2006-09-18 10:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by CE S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is more important.
I had kinda the same problem. It was just a stepmother and from the other side.
My bf picked me. We r very happy and my parents learned to exept him.
Have u tried sitting and talking to your mom finding out what exactly bothers her about him. Try telling her u need to make your own mistakes and she cant keep u from making them.
U love her and always will, if she really loved u she would support whatever decision u make.
Remember a mothers intuition is always right. It sucks to hear it, but it is true. If there something not right with this guy, she will be the first one to tell u. What does the rest of your family think? Ask them for advise to. Talk to the bf, after talking to mom. See if there isnt anything he would like to do to make this sitution easier on u. He cant expect u to forget about your family.
2006-09-18 10:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by chanD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't fair for your mom to put that pressure on you. You have to live your own life and even if this guy is a mistake you'll learn from it. She may just be saying this to scare you, but a real mother loves her children unconditionally. No matter what mistake they make or what they think is a mistake. I would advise you to listen to your mom's opinions with an open mind because she has lived a little more. Most parents only want what is best and sometimes love is blind. But it is your decision. You can't live your life for someone else. You will never be happy and you'll never make them happy or exceed their expectations either.
2006-09-18 10:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by sceptileptic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No man is worth losing your mother over honey. Chances are mom sees something in this man, that you don't. It's common, when we're in a relationship, we're blinded by love. Sit down and have a heart to heart with mom. Find out what is bugging her about this guy, tell her to be honest. Then tell her that she is important to you and that you don't want to lose her in your life, but that you love this man, and right now, this is where you want to be.
I can't tell you what the outcome is going to be honey, but if you take a mature approach, she's bound to be a little more understanding.
2006-09-18 10:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does your mom hate him?
Usually mothers want the best for their daughters so probably she has a good reason and you should listen to her.
Life is not a fairy tale and love sometimes isn't enough -- you need compatibility and stability too and maybe she can see that this guy isn't going to be what you need.
Think hard before you toss your mom aside -- the love a mother has for her child is stronger than any other kind.
2006-09-18 10:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by Elaura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him, then follow your heart. I have been in the same situation for about a year now and work with my mom in a family business. She despises my man and he is not welcome around my family. At the end of the day, though, he is the one I chose to go home to and am happiest when I am with him. Don't sacrifice love for the benefit of others. If you have a real relationship with your mom, she will come around, as I believe mine will. Remember, she is your mom, and regardless of what happens, she will love you anyway! Best wishes!!
2006-09-18 10:19:39 · answer #8 · answered by ncmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are and if she is just being controlling or if this guy is a loser. Only you can answer that. Why does your mom hate him? Does she have some valid reason? Would you want your daughter to be with someone like him?
2006-09-18 10:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is being selfish and trying to make you feel guilty is not going to solve anything. She should be ashamed of herself. You need to experience life on your own. She cannot control who you choose to be with. You are an adult and can make decisions for your own. Although she's not seeing eye-to-eye with your b/f, it doesn't mean that she should make negative comments like this one. It just puts stress on your shoulders. Instead, she should express her fears, worries and concerns to you. Hear her out, but it's still up to you to make your own decision. If you decide to still leave with your b/f, then there is nothing else she can do except for wish you well. Move on with your life. You can't always live up to your mothers expectations.
2006-09-18 10:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless this guy is a real loser, drugs, alcohol, no ambition or plan of life. etc. to remind her what a mistake you made. Your mother will come around. Time is on your side. You mother will always be your mother. hopefully you won't have started having kids too soon.
This is a big decision young one, think about it..
good luck
2006-09-18 10:24:33 · answer #11 · answered by Patrick C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋