Hey, i need your help and anyones elses help, im so confused and have no idea what do do.
First of all i met this girl we went out and it ended...after 2 months.
then we had holidays and i met the single greatest girl in the world but i waso nly there with her for 3 or 4 days but in those days i managed to fall in love with her.
After i left her we kinda drifted and my feelings vanished because i met the old g/f again and she fell for me agian and foolishly we went out again, for one day, we broke up, then about a week later we went out...AGAIN!
this was 7 months ago and in the last month ive been constantly thinking about this girl form my holidays and she is in love with me and i am in love with her, i kinda want to break it off with my current g/f to be with the other, but she lives 4 hours away and it wont work. i want it to but im afraid well drfift apart again, whould i go with the choice of weho i love more, or the safest one?
Thank you so much
-Justin
2006-09-18 03:06:17 · 16 answers · asked by ilovemirandalouise 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The one you love. If you pick the one that's safe for you, it won't work in the long run. We can't tell our hearts "hey you have to love this person cause they are the safe option".... lol.... however, I have been in your shoes and know that this is easier said than done. And speaking from experience I chose the safe one and it didn't last. So although it will be scary, chose the one you love as life is too short & that is your true happiness. Good Luck!
2006-09-18 03:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your whole infatuation is based on imagination mostly. She likes you because you're 4 hours away. She doesn't have to feel any commitment to you at all. If you've told her how much you love her your a sap. You love her because the 3-4 days you had together were great. Spend 3-4 months with her and tell me are you still in love...how about 3-4 years? You spent a few days with her, on vacation, and you've been dreaming about her ever since.
Don't be stupid and break up what you have now. Keep what you have now. When you get the chance creep away to the other girls spot. However, I don't think you can handle it emotionally. You fall in love to easy.
Think about it, you were both on vacation. A break away from your normal world. That's all it is. Bring your vacation fantasy into your normal world, and it won't seem so fancy. If you break up what you got right with you for some girl who's 4 hours away.... she probably has a man you don't know about that's local. You ain't nothing but a back up plan. It's good to have a back up plan. Yet you don't ever want to put your confidence into a back up plan. Someone needs to pull your coat bwoy. Matter fact, appreciate what I just said. That's a present. It should come wrapped with a bowtie.
2006-09-18 10:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by nathancarson23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, It sounds like you are not in love with your current g/f and I really think you need to break it off with her becausein the end you will end up cheating on her. As for the other girl, there is a chance that it could work out. If you guys really care for each other try to the long distance thing and go from there. Trust me, you will never let her go until you know that you have at least tried. Before its too late you might this girl and the next thing you know shes getting married to another guy and you will never know if you relationship with her could of ever happened.
2006-09-18 10:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think it is fair to your current g/f to have sort of feelings for her?
I say break it off with her.
Chase holiday girl, its where your heart lies.
What is this about safety? Sometimes if your not willing to risk everything you wont gain anything.
There is no safety in love my friend. You jump and fall and hope to God someone or something catches you, you have to learn how to leap. Otherwise you'll never be ready. Sumtimes the riskiest choice might make you the happiest.
If it doesnt work out with holiday girl, you can always persue someone else.
2006-09-18 10:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by chanD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be wrong to say just dump your current girlfriend!!
However, Love is a dangerous thing and if you feel that strongly for the other girl your girlfriend will pick up on it in how you act with her, based on little things. And it will make for a living hell. She will become unhappy because your unhappy!! And then it will end anyways!!
So if you know in your heart that the other girl feels the same for you and that strongly and that your old enough to relocate to go be closer to her then don’t wait.
2006-09-18 10:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by 4mika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very thought of you
Makes my heart sing
Like a soft gentle breeze
Blowing in the midst of spring.
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Like the touch of a rose
Just as soft as your kiss
As I sit here so quietly
And begin to reminisce.
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Lonely without you
Like a bird without song
Knowing your arms
Is where I belong.
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I see your face in flowers
Your eyes in stars above
Every thought of you tells me
I’m very much in love.
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Though happy or sad
Beside you I’ll stand
Walking by your side
While holding your hand.
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Praying that our love
Will remain a burning flame
The love I have for you
You will someday proclaim.
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You’re someone very special
I hold close to my heart
Never wanting our love to end
Never wanting for us to part.
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But, if in this lifetime
You say our love is through
You’ll find etched upon my heart
The words, “P.S. I Love You!”
2006-09-18 10:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by sorena 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem with both relationships is that they have *you* in them. They'll all fall apart, and the explanation for my opinion is too long to get into. Get some therapy alone. Sorry, but you're a mess.
2006-09-18 10:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by georgia b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break up with your current girlfriend regardless of whether you pursue the other one - it's unfair on her to be in the relationship while you'd really prefer to be with someone else. Unless she's aware of the situation and okay with it, but I doubt that from the way you describe it.
2006-09-18 10:08:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are making this difficult. If you are "in-love" with the other girl, then you need to be with her. You should ask yourself, "Do I want to break-up everyday and go through this crap, or do I want to be happy". Stop going for the "safe" choices. You are missing out on true love.
2006-09-18 10:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how long have you and this girl been dating? if you like the new girl that you arent dating better then break up wif the one that you are dating and then ask the other one out
2006-09-18 10:09:48 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋