we haven't much money and have a one year old child yet when i ask him not to go to the pub he says im nagging and being selfish what do you think? hes willing to get a lend of money to go drinking with the boys but not for us to get food electric,
do you think im being selfish???
2006-09-18 02:55:56 · 12 answers · asked by boosbecca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, I think *he* is being selfish.
If it weren't for the baby, I would tell you to leave him in a hot second. As it is, I'm still thinking you should, but first you have to make sure that you have some way to provide for yourself and the baby. I wish I could offer you more advice on how to do that, but I don't know the first thing about you or your situation, so I will just say good luck to you.
2006-09-18 03:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO yr not being selfish, he is, I had a hubby that was more interest to going to the pub with his friends and drinking and betting then spending time with his family, where did that get him, divorced....
I think that he needs to work out what is important in his life his g/f and baby and having food on the table etc or going to the pub with the boys.
Seriously I think its time for a "lets have a talk", tell him that if he doesn't change his ways then you not putting up with his b/s attitude.
2006-09-18 10:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by itsmeiambackagain_333. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 years ago I was in the same exact situation. He was always out partying and I at home with the baby. I thought If I just hung in there things would get better. But it didn't. He ended up in prison for vehicular homicide due to drinking and I even stayed with him through that. Nothing got better. We split finally after he came home. He is still the same person. He just got out of another rehab. I know everyone's situation is different, but I would hate to see you ruin any more of your future over a man who will not put his family first. But I know it is hard. I would sit down with him and tell him what you need from him as a boyfriend and a father. If he doesn't meet up to those standards, you need to make a plan to leave and do what you need to do to make a good life for you and your baby. I know it wont be easy. He is the one who is being selfish, and truthfully, he will probably never change. Good Luck. My heart really does go out to you.
2006-09-18 10:17:38 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly_kisses773 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FAMILY FIRST!! No, you are not being selfish! He needs to take care of his family-period! Don't allow him to turn this around on you. You are concerned with your child-that is not being selfish! Someone has to be there and be concerned-he is in the pub, so that leaves you! Stay strong on this one. Good luck!
2006-09-18 10:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the one who is being selfish. You would be better off alone in my opinion, however, the proper way to go about solving this would be to get him to therapy. If he won't go, drop him.
You also need to improve your self-image. You can see a psychologist or a hypnotherapist or both. My experience has confirmed that hypnotherapy knocks at least 6 months off of psychological therapy.
You can call The National Guild of Hypnotists at: 603-429-9438 in Merrimack, N.H. to find the Hypnotherapist nearest you. They are all over the world.
2006-09-18 10:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being selfish...he needs to get his priorities straight, grow up, and act like a man.
2006-09-18 10:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by cubbies360 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not play around over a situation like this... if you have a baby at home he needs to grow up
if he is holding you back and not helping you progress then you need to cut some strings.
2006-09-18 09:59:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not, and if i was u id seriously thinking about my relationship, get a job or soemthing. us women we strong, and can do without such selfish men!
2006-09-18 10:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A boyfriend or a father of your child?
2006-09-18 10:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by zily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him! He is the selfish clod!
2006-09-18 09:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by lauren m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋