What do I do now my hubby has gone away with work for 2 weeks?!?

Question

I feel like somebody's unplugged me, deflated and empty. Got two kids that miss their daddy, hate every day life without him. Just miss him like mad.
And that's only the start. Soon he'll be going away for 7 months, to Iraq, over the christmas period...I am dreading it.

Answer 1

I can think of a thing or two!!!!

Answer 2

I was gonna make a "have an affair with me heh heh" joke, but it's been done and I think you're serious.

So, my little co-dependent angel, a serious answer for you.

Now are you feeling this way because you know eventually he's going to sandland? If so, there are support groups for people that have deployed spouses. If that's not your bag, then you're gonna have to fill the void with activities (with or without the kidlets). Re-decorate, as one answerer already mentioned. Take on a needlessly complex home improvement project. Spend time with friends. Play World of Warcraft. The idea is to do something so that your mind is occupied. Remember, we don't want you to forget about him, we want you to forget that he's not there.

... However, if you're missing him like crazy because "he defines you" or you feel that "he completes you", then you're in trouble. It's even more important to address this issue because teh kiddies will see mommy as a blubbering wreck and... well... emulate it. Three miserable people. Not good. Remember, you had an identity before he came along. For their sake, you've got to find it again. I hate to even think it, but *anything* can happen in 7 months. If this is how you are now... see where I'm going?

Yeah, you've got real heavy stuff to deal with here. Just remind the kids (and yourself) that Daddy will be home soon. Good luck.

Answer 3

I do pity you and know exactly how you feel.... the way around it is concentrate on not only your kids but also on yourself.....its lonely 4 you when the kids are in bed and you are all alone ......
You dont say whether you work or not??? Why dont you and the kids do stuff that you say wouldnt normally do take them swimming in the evening then out to McDonalds on way home guarentee they will sleep well and you could then invite a friend over to watch videos ect.....take up a hobby for example dress making .....
The other thing is are there any other ladies in a similar situation as yourself maybe you could get together.....
One thing thou I would say is Im sure your husband will be missing you as much as you and the kids are missing him...... try and get this lonliness sorted out in the next 2 weeks as Im sure he feels very guilty that he is leaving you home in such a desperate state.... good luck

Answer 4

aww bless never had that problem me self would get the bloody flags out if mine went away .. but seriously u need to get together with ur mates have a nite out .. get all the kids together have a kinda party so then u can all tell each other how u feeling and then u may not feel so bad and at least u can all stick together when the goin gets tough and two weeks will be here and gone before u know it .. 7 mths might be harder but wot with xmas coming up sure u can keep ur self busy preparing for him coming home .. good luck xx

Answer 5

Look at some of those pervy answers. Thats shocking guys.......

Itmust be hard for you and the kids, but reasure them that their dad loves them and thinks about them every day. Even encourage them to write him a letter each week tellinghim what they got up to at school, etc. Also you spend as much time as you can with them. Find a hobby or something that interests you and write and tell your husband what your doing and how much your enjoying it. I'm sure he would hate to know that you are all sitting about broken hearted he is away. He would want you all to carry on with your normal routines, but its nice knowing your missed as well.

I dont know how your gonna cope over xmas though, its a time for families to be together, but you can remember each other and have a xmas dinner together when he gets back,that would be oh so special for your husband......

Hope it works out, and if you need a friendly chat email me. No i aint sick like the rest of them blokes thats answered you on here

Answer 6

I used to go away with the military a lot and worked away from home too. It's just as hard for yer hubby. Keep in regular touch with those bluey thingies and get the kids to write too, as many as you can. Send him loadsa photo's of you all. Don't be alone over Christmas. Do you live on base? there should be other wives in the same position as you. Try and get together with them if you don't have family around you. Failing all that email me (and me missus). Don't be shy about getting the Army to do stuff for you too, they have to now.

Answer 7

I think that it is always difficult to cope when your partner goes away, whether you have kids or not.
With kids it is much more difficult.
You will have to try and keep yourself busy and entertained. that means leaving the kids with a baby sitter and getting out with friends. Go and visit your relatives.
Maybe your husband could send some video footage home, some letters whatever just for the kids to have something to look forward to every now and again.
Good luck!

Answer 8

make the most of your own time - do things you enjoy - spend time with your kids. Take up a new hobby. HAve the girls around!
theres SO many things to keep yourself occupied - you just got a put the depression of missing your hubbie to one side and make the most of it! I know its hard with two kids n all but you'll get used to it and he'll be home before you know it.

Answer 9

Wait patiently for him to return. Enjoy the time that you have with him when he is here with you. Try to do some things that you want to do personally for yourself. Also, do fun things with your children during that time. I am not sure how old the children are, but explain to them where he is and what he is doing. Let them know that he will return and that he haven't left them. Keep plenty of pictures around of your husband. As far as for you, just take it one day at a time. Before you know it the time will be up and your husband will be back home. I pray that all will be well with him and your family during this time that he is away.

Answer 10

you sound nice. he and the kids are lucky to have you.
he knows this. just think about the good tomes you have when you are together. when he is gone ask him to wright a lot of letters.he will be happy to do so if you let him know how much you miss and need him. you should do the same. he will look forward to his mail every day..include a few sexy photos every now and then.. don't cheat on him.. you will feel guilty
remember he's not away because he wants to be.
he is doing it for you and the kids

Answer 11

I am really sorry to hear that. You just need to find things to occupy you and your kids time. Maybe you and the kids can do some fun things together to try and keep you and the kids minds off of dad. Do you have relatives nearby? If so just go and visit them sometime. Me and my sister are really close and when my husband goes out of town she will always come over and spend the night with me. We play games with the kids and rent movies and ust have a good time.

Good luck and I will pray for your husbands safe return!