Ok I've known this much older guy for three years on the third year we started talking on the phone. Only he could call me but i can't call him. He won't let me. We'd talk for 3-5 hours. Lately he's gotten personal about me. He would ask what I look like in my intimate parts. Or about 'that time of the month' sure I'd ask him stuff about sex in a man's point of view. Do you see any warning signs? I'm comfortable with him because when I tell him he crossed a boundry he won't cross it anymore or force me to do anything I don't want to. He has a girlfriend age 19. (I'm 21 and he's 43) He already knows I'm not attracted to older men.
Opinions please
2006-09-18 02:39:46 · 14 answers · asked by bananapepperz 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
stop talking to him thats weird!
2006-09-18 02:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by rhodes727 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not letting you call him sounds a little weird, but I guess it could be because he has a gf. Sounds like he is starting you think of you as not a friend. Plus, why would you talk to just a friend about stuff like that? He's getting weird (or rather, showing his weirdness). The guy is 43 and has a 19yo gf! Psycho! What emotionally mature man would want to be with a child? He's whack. Don't EVER meet him and I'd say he won't end up being a particularly positive influence in your life.
Seriously, what kind of mental shape does a guy have to be in to be in a relationship like that?
2006-09-18 09:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not attracted to older men, why are you even talking to him? I think talking about intimate parts is crossing a line when you're not dating someone or even have an interest in them. Also, if you did start to date him would you like him talking to other girls like that? Well he will. Sounds like a nasty old man!
If you are 21 you are old enough to know what is going on. He want let you call him? Duhhhhhhhh, He is probably married or something.
2006-09-18 09:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by sceptileptic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your phone number and run like the wind. He's either on the prowl for a sweet young chick, or married. A decent person would not talk like that to a young girl, and would be open for a call from you. If you have doubts, which you do, it is a gut instinct and a huge, in your face, red flag!
2006-09-18 09:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Momma Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see warning signs as far as him being a cheater, if you ever did "hook up" with him. If he has a girlfriend already, and is asking you intimate questions, in a roundabout way, he's cheating on the girl he's dating now. Who knows how many other "friends" like you he has, and has intimate conversations with?
If I were you, I'd continue to chat online with him, but leave it at that.
2006-09-18 11:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a pervert to me. Why would you want to have those kinds of conversations with someone your not in a relationship with? What is he doing with a girl young enough to be his daughter? RED FLAG! And if your not attracted to older men don't have intimate conversations with him I think by doing that he might think that he has a chance with you. You may be inadvertently leading him on.
2006-09-18 10:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is no pervert, just a guy who likes young girls, likes talking dirty on the phone. He is attracted to you and would not be against of sex with you. He has a girlfriend already, maybe he doesn't like her anymore, but it is more likely he is just a gigolo.
You must like talking to him if you guys talk for 3-5 hours.
well, talk, as long as you like it.
I think you know better.
2006-09-18 10:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by Mondschein! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others. Definately sounds dubious and frankly quite creepy.
I would stay clear, Go and meet someone who wants to spend time with you not just on the phone to you. That is when the relationship will become really satisfying.
2006-09-18 09:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by Oscar100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I would drop the guy QUICK!!!
Whats with hin abd MUCH younger girls?? His girl friend is barely legal. Despite anything else he is talking ot you in ways he shouldn't if he is in a commited relationship. Would you want him to do the same to you if you got involved with him??
2006-09-18 09:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by princessdawn1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all sounds a little creepy to me.
You'll probably be better off finding someone else to talk to... someone closer to your own age.
2006-09-18 09:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by johntadams3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like phone sex to me. Maybe you should start charging.
2006-09-18 09:43:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋