tomoro is the bday of my friend whom i haven't been getting along quite well.
it's awkward cuz we used to give bday pressents in highsch... even last year. and now it's like she and me are like a mile apart even if we stand beside each other. thought if i don't give her anything this bday nor wish her a happy bday.. it will definitely show her that something is wrong.
what do you think? she put me down alot... many times that shows what her heart truely thinks about me.. a nobody. she's always laughing in her heart when i don't achieve something...do you think i'm just imagining things? she even accidentally said it on a few occasions. its weird she thinks nothing is wrong btwn us. tht's why I need to get her out of my life.
do you think i am over reacting? should i forgive her? or just forget about her n pretend that i don't remember that its her bday?
I hate being a meanie but sometimes i don't wanna be a kiss arsse and make myself suffer instead. that's not fair to m
2006-09-18 02:33:32 · 18 answers · asked by Spidergurl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
that's not fair to me*
2006-09-18 02:34:08 · update #1
the thing is she hangs out with my cousin... so it is not so easy to cut her off.. and she's got the same class as me. :(
2006-09-18 02:50:56 · update #2
Have you ever set her down and had a talk with her and how she treats you? It sounds like she is a bit jealous of you. Why do you remain friends with her when she is not a friend to you? I would buy her a nice card and in the card I would write a very nice letter explaining how you feel. Wish her the best, and then move on and find a new friend. I agree you shouldn't kiss butt here, or in any relationship. So either talk to her and let her know how you feel or just forget it and find someone else.
Good Luck and God bless
2006-09-18 02:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter and just let her know in a professional matter that u no longer wish to have her as a friend because ur just growing apart and because you now have a different perspective of the meaning of friends. Apologize to her if you have hurt her feelings and be done w/it. sometimes its hard and harsh to do things the right way but as my favorite saying goes for these kinds of occasions "with friends like that who needs enemies". Cut her off write the letter wish her happy b/day (is good to have manners) and be gone w/it. I say if a friend is no longer good for u or doesn't value u as a person than it is no longer a friend which means move on. Harsh world but u gotta do what u gotta do. Good luck and choose ur friends wisely.
2006-09-18 09:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well,
This happened to me alot of times...
But when i tried to just not ignore them and not even be too close to them, they will soon find it out what's wrong, if the problem is in others, then you probably have nothing to worry, just let god punish for their sins(for what they have done wrong). But after all, revise you're self if you've done anything wrong because she's acting like that, so finally if you're the one who's right, then just leave it on god or you're luck to decide, may be she have something to tell you or say sorry to you on her birthday?
Unexpected things come in our lifes, hope I am not giving my class a lesson but trying my best to make you two become friends again, because if she was not important for you, then why would you be asking all the way in here?
Thanks for reading this...
Ryan,
2006-09-18 09:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by ryan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that all depends on if you want to continue to try and salvage the relationship with her. If you do then be the bigger person and get her a gift and tell her happy bday and how much your friendship means to you.
If you don't want anything more to do with her then don't get her anything or even acknowledge that its her bday if fact have a date or something else planned on that day.
2006-09-18 09:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really need her out of your life, I would definitely "forget" her birthday. Just blow it off. People change as they get older and what used to work doesn't work anymore. Don't stress on it. If you really feel the need to acknowledge somehow, call and say HB and then let it go.
2006-09-18 09:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her a card and a wee menton write a message on the card telling her how you feel if she snubs it then you'll know your better off without her.
you sound a very sensative person if this girl hurts you again cut off all ties with her nobody needs people like that in there life they only drag us down
good luck x
2006-09-18 09:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by boosbecca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This relationship is causing you pain....and relationships' shouldnt...especially friendships. WE cant choose our family or neighbours...but we can have choices over our friends. You could acknowldege the friend via email or a simple card....other than that I wouldnt do anything. Lay low and see what happens.... time to stretch your social circle...that relationship sounds a little poisoness.........not worth it you sound really nice....good luck...
2006-09-18 09:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend and i went throught the same thing. We gave ea other presents but we don't talk at all now. Don't get her something really expensive maybe just a card or something
2006-09-18 09:36:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront her about your issues and try to resolve them if they can be resolved, that could be the best gift you could give her. Instead of something tangible give her friendship, love , trust, a shoulder to lean on, put a smile on her face.
2006-09-18 10:19:31 · answer #9 · answered by Joyann R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send a card.. wish her the best and move on. Why make yourself sick and upset over this. It will work out in the end.
2006-09-18 09:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by Moon_Dance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋