its been a 2years now since we got married but no trust developed between both of us.i do try to trust him but sometimes the past still haunts me and drives me up the wall.he is not a honest person.every time we get into an arguement he blames me for every thing.he never accepts his mistakes .this strange behaviour is disturbing me.now i think its time to decide.why men cheat on wife?
2006-09-18 02:25:33 · 9 answers · asked by vjbr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anytime you go through a rocky relationship or even a divorce you will change from this. Not always in a good way. You lose respect for others, trust in others, and always have that suspicion in others. This is something you must work through yourself or with help of a professional to overcome. It takes time. A lot of time. If you want a great relationship and happiness you will eventually have to learn to trust again. Don't let someone elses mistakes and immaturity get in the way of your judgement on someone else. You need to base your feelings off the person you are with now. I know it is hard very hard. It will take time. But you can one day trust someone again.
You really need to work on this. The person you are with should not have to prove over and over their faithfulness to you. This could put a major strain on your relationship in the long run and even push the person away. Be careful :-)
2006-09-18 02:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your life will be affected, but you have to make the decision that is best for you. Divorce is never easy, but sometimes it is necessary. Trust is very improtant in any relationship. Would you remain in a friendship if the friend lied to you all the time? Probably not.
Get counceling, talk to your husband about your concerns, and try to work it out. But, if he is not willing to be honest with you and work on the trust issues, then you may need to move on.
Good Luck!
2006-09-18 09:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he acctually cheating.....? or do you just think he will because of bad memories and experiences? Its not a good thing that he blames you for everything in arguements.......but i think you could probably fix alot of this by sitting down and having an adult coversation, rather than a screaming match.......and telling him about your past, what you are feeling, and how he makes you feel when he is dishonest.......then allow him the chance to do the same, there has to be give and take and you need the trust to build up, it isnt instantly there in one day, give it a chance.....communicate.......
divorce isnt an easy option.....
2006-09-18 09:32:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it wont be... its better to not be in a relationship (even marriage) if u r not happy .. u live once and you need to be happy hats most important.. its gets so hard after have kids to split ways.. it was maybe 30 years ago in some cultures where it was considered a bad thing to get divorced.. nowadays get the strength n courage n do what u think is life.. if he dont treat u right girl he aint worth ur time..
2006-09-18 09:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by vikram m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your decision should be: whether to stick with his nonsense or leave him.
Obviously you got married not for love. Based on your description, neither of you have respect for each other. As there is no trust as well, your lives would be happier if you are apart.
However, you are the only one who can decide what you want in your life. Why will a girl's life be spoilt after divorce?
2006-09-18 09:53:44 · answer #5 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you figure out that answer, you just let me know!!!! The trust will probably never come back, and you will live your life being miserable! I hate to sound so blut about it, but it's true. There is nothing left of a relationship when the trust is gone. You don't want that kind of man! Good luck with whatever you choose to do!
2006-09-18 09:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you married him in the first place. I think you should consider ending this marriage and moving on with your life.
2006-09-18 09:35:38 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is getting plenty of something essential outside!
2006-09-18 10:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it will be affected. Try hard and don't do it. But if you really must keep her out as much as possible.
2006-09-18 09:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by A K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋