Their or two men in my life I love them both?

Question

I love both of them,I dont wont to hurt any anyone

Answer 1

as far as all the responses you are going to get about sharing ..do not do that I am in love with 2 people also one is my boyfriend and one is my best friend if I could have it my way I would be with my best friend but things just do not work out that way ..you need to make a choice follow your heart and you will find your way .GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

Weigh your options and decide which would be the best fit for you. In a relationship a person will not always have exactly everything that you want. Determine what things you can live with and what things you can't.....A person will not have 100% of what we need, but don't trade the 80% for the 20%.

You said that you don't want to hurt anyone, but if a decision is not made, then you could end up getting hurt yourself or one of your men could end up hurting the other. You have to choose. My mother used to tell me, that if the one you are with is not enough to please you, don't add another, find another. In other words don't have 2 and 3 men, just find the one that has the characteristics that you are looking for in a relationship.

Answer 3

I understand exactly where you r coming from. i am there to. All I can say is you need to sit down and decide which one of them is the better. Ask yourself in 5 years which one of these men will be there for me? There are obviously qualities you like in both you you also need to figure out which quality's you like about each man. Then based on what you decide you then need to pick one of them I understand that is seems easier than it is. Are either of these men involved with someone else? Sometimes the reason you fall for someone is because it is someone you can not have because they are already taken.

I have been in a long term relationship and had an affair with a married man who offered to leave his wife for me. I love with all my heart but I love my b/f too. It has been a long and herd road that is still not over yet but I am working on it.

I wish you the best of luck in what ever you decide but remember make the decision that is best for you not one you will regret. If you want something you have to be willing to fight will all you got to get what or whoever it is.

Answer 4

I don't think you know the real significant about LOVE,anyway you're already there.Lets just say you cannot serve two master or two president sitting for one country, someone is always second and there should be the first.You should pick one or never but how?I think you have to keep distance to both of them for a while and make deeper self -realization and balance things you know you should.Love is giving favor who do not deserve,Love is acceptance and commitment with all your totality including your will ,decision sometimes even possesion.Remember ,only one king sitting on one throne and that throne is your HEART.

Answer 5

But by stringing them along you are going to make it more painful as time goes on and feelings go deeper. If you really love them both, then you'll make up your mind and tell one of them you can't be involved with him anymore. You need to be an adult about this. Feelings will always get hurt even in the best of situations because emotions are just like that. Good luck and make it happen this week.

Answer 6

maybe be honest with them and give them both a wide birth for a while,,it may help you see who you miss and want in the long run,,if you are forever flitting between the two you are getting good times from both and your days and evenings will be a roller coaster of nothing but memories that make you happy but it cant go on like this,can it? bit of distance and time may be all you need. without space and knowing each one as a proper b/f you are not getting the time you need to see who they are when they are just being boring and having an off day,,these bits are those which give you an insight on whether or not you want them,,good and bad.

Answer 7

Dear Candace,

Continue to love and relate to them both. Be honest with both of them. If one gets jealous and leaves, that will solve your problem. If they both accept the situation, keep being open and honest and relating to both of them and perhaps one day, one of them will win the right to your exclusive attention. Explain to each one that your love for the other man does not diminish your love for him. I had this situation with three men. One of them died and one of them left. The one remaining was my man. In the mean time, my man loved and supported me in any way he could. He even mediated arguments between me and the one who left after 12 years. He saw what was happening and let me know about it and I should have paid attention and left sooner. Good Luck, Barbara

Answer 8

Find out witch one loves you as much as you love him. Try to find one who is just the playa or the one who wants you the most. Pick the one who cares about you and wil love you. If they both love you then pick the one who loves you the most. No puppy love go with the real stuff. GoOOOOOOOOd luck trust me youll need it

Answer 9

Than leave them both, hurt them as well as you will hurt yourself - that is the most honest thing to do, and find someone you will love better than two of them.

Answer 10

better find a third one to keep on the side ,cause you are gonna lose them both. No good can come from it, grow up and have a real relationship with one guy at a time. One of my ex's was like that, and i'm glad i got out.