Can a man and a woman who have different perspectives on where life should go (where to live, what type of work to do, how to raise kids) stay together and make it? Will one of them ultimately have to sacrifice their dreams? Who should have to change their dreams--the man or the woman??
Any personal stories or examples are appreciated.
2006-09-18 01:38:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is compromise by both the husband and wife. Marriage is a partnership not a dictatorship.
Also the person you marry today will not be the same person 5 years from now. You need to grow and be tolerant of each other.
If you are both complete opposites, marriage will be very difficult.
2006-09-18 01:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband can't be the same person, so your ethics, perspectives, wants, fears, dream etc., are going to be different. The only way you can make a relationship work is if you want to. Relationships are give and take. Give on somethings that mean more to your spouse, and stand firm on the things that are really important to you. Life is a journey. Everything can't be roses, but you saw something in this person that made you want to take the journey with him, and it's important not to forget that. As you get older, your dreams change, and so do the things that are important to you.
2006-09-18 01:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by ballybabt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think both can have their dreams if they are willing. There will be lots of little and big sacrifices along the way though, but they'll eventually get where they want to be. I do wonder though if some people should have waited till they were in a better position in life and could better pick the one who would most complement them.
2006-09-18 01:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is all about give and take. no two people are going to have the exact same dreams and plans for the future. it is not all ways easy for two people to decide who's dreams are more important and which path to take. someone all ways has to sacrifice. the question you have to ask yourself is do you love the person your with more than your dreams..................or on the flip side do thet love you more than there dreams. the key word is give flexiability.
i hope this helps you. i wood like to know the outcome of your situation.
2006-09-18 02:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both people have to give 200% or he marriage will never work. It really is about give and take, and the wife needs to be submissive, and the husband grateful, both respecting of the other. No two people are exactly the same married or not.
2006-09-18 01:46:40 · answer #5 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now for 20 years marriage I find that we always disagree to the main aspects and concerns (me and my husband) , we do'nt reach acompromise at all , he do'es what he decides concerning raisig kids(which is the big problem in our life) so I withdrawed long time ago. He earns money and has the power over our style of life although he does'nt practice this power to compulse me to do what I do'nt want to do. I need him , and he needs me because there are mutual benifits for each one . I think our life is ok .
2006-09-18 02:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have the same goals as a couple, you're going to have a hard time together. After 20 years of marriage, my husbands goals stayed the same, and I left him because he wouldn't give an inch! He assumed that his goals were my goals; and they were not! I figured that after all of that time, he was never going to change and we went our separate ways. It worked out well for us both. Godloveya.
2006-09-18 01:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should change their dreams. Say one of you wants kids and one doesnt thats a big issue. One of you will always be unhappy if you have to sacrifice your dreams.
2006-09-18 01:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by malorieks 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-18 01:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by sorena 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communicate and compromise! The one who loves more gives more ....
2006-09-18 01:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by Kellybelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋