Do you make the decisions, look after the money etc?
If you do, how does it make you feel about your man? Are you happy or would you rather he make the decisions?
Thanx!
2006-09-18 01:37:16 · 22 answers · asked by kway_tzar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm not a woman.
but this is a depiction of my wife, currently I'm seeking separation from her,
I have "no" say in any decisions.
If I like something, she will change it. But if she likes something, she tells me I have bad taste.
But if she makes an mistake, she'll spend more money fixing it, saying the lighting made the colour look off. If I make a mistake, an argument occurs, saying I have poor judgement ( double standard).
Our furniture never gets past 2 or 3 years, I'm still paying off a couch she disposed of 3 months ago.
Also if she made a decision, and it is not to her taste, later on. She argues with me I did not stop her from making a poor judgement.
but if I tried she would say I have bad taste, if I brought it up, saying I don't like it and we should not get it, later she says you did not push the issue.
Also if she drops something, she blames me, for distracting her, but if I drop something, I'm a clumsy idiot.
So I made a decision Divorce. and she still does not understand
2006-09-18 02:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by Juggernaut 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that a man should be a man, and a woman needs to know her place as a woman. Women these days can be so overbearing sometimes, and some really do take on a role of trying to be the man and the woman in a relationship. A man wants to feel like he's a man unless he's a very weak man. When a woman starts trying to take on his role then you will have a lot of problems. It doesn't mean that the man has the upper hand in everything that goes on, it just means he's doing his role as a man. A woman would want the same in return. It's all about respect and understanding on both sides. Both should make desicions as a team because in all reality they are a team. I'm very submissive, but i'm not stupud either. I just want love and respect.
2006-09-18 01:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am one of those women. And I don't do it because I want to be in power, but simply because I know what kind of things my significant others' always up to and am afraid of what would happen if he was in control of our finances.
My opinion of him has not been changed because of being in charge of certain decisions. I would very much like for him to get a better job, though. Regardless of having to take care and watch on our finances. etc, he is a great person and treats me very well.
It would be wonderful if he could make the decisions on things sometimes; even if it were just what we were going to eat on any given night... or what kind of bread to buy at the grocery store. Anything really would be nice; and as far as the money, I would love to be able to trust him with it and let him deal with the stress of trying to keep all of the bills paid and our mouths fed while saving up for our 4-month-in-utero baby... it would take alot of weight off of my shoulders!
2006-09-18 02:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica Kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do make all the decisions, look after the money, etc. As for relationships, I don't need or want them, I'm perfectly happy being single and not even going through that **** with someone else.
2006-09-18 02:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman in control of the finances, and alot of the decision making, it is because I have the know-how to keep the money where it belongs, in the bank or to pay bills. No monking around, because my fiancee is not good at managing the money. He wants it that way . It might be because if something gets messed up it would be my fault, not his. But I dont think it is that way. We are soul-mates, were getting married OCT 12, 2006.
2006-09-18 01:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by LINDA C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
generally speaking i make most decisions but he usually controls money coz he earns more of it!
it can be a bit annoying having to decide where we are going, what we are guna eat etc all the time and i do wish he would make a decision once in a while, but he just isnt like that and seems to be happy doing whatever i pick to do. i worry that he might get bored but then we do like mainly the same things, have the same group of friendsetc so he cant get that bored!
2006-09-18 01:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by Caroline N 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't want to be in control of my marriage any more than I would want to be controlled. I am certainly in control of my contributions to the relationship, such as domestic chores, love, sex, finances, long term planning, etc.
In a healthy marriage, it isn't about a power struggle for control. In a healthy marriage, it is a partnership. It is a gathering of resources for a better life together. Even if one person has a greater skill in one aspect of marriage (finances, sex, whatever), that doesn't mean they are automatically in charge. It is a partnership.
I've been in a controlling relationship before, and I won't do that again. I certainly wouldn't expect someone I love to accept the same.
2006-09-18 02:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by burpolicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very thought of you
Makes my heart sing
Like a soft gentle breeze
Blowing in the midst of spring.
Image
Like the touch of a rose
Just as soft as your kiss
As I sit here so quietly
And begin to reminisce.
Image
Lonely without you
Like a bird without song
Knowing your arms
Is where I belong.
Image
I see your face in flowers
Your eyes in stars above
Every thought of you tells me
I’m very much in love.
Image
Though happy or sad
Beside you I’ll stand
Walking by your side
While holding your hand.
Image
Praying that our love
Will remain a burning flame
The love I have for you
You will someday proclaim.
Image
You’re someone very special
I hold close to my heart
Never wanting our love to end
Never wanting for us to part.
Image
But, if in this lifetime
You say our love is through
You’ll find etched upon my heart
The words, “P.S. I Love You!”
2006-09-18 01:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by sorena 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband is the sole breadwinner and has been for 26 yrs. We have two grown daughters. He brings home the money, I handle paying the bills, banking, savings, checking, take care of the house, meal planning, laundry etc. He helps when he is home. The lawn work he usually does to my protest, I love gardening and mowing the lawn. Decisions are usually mutual when it pertains to the home or children. and yes I am happy.
2006-09-18 01:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by goodbye 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We are a team ! I do handle a lot of our affairs .But, we as a whole ...make the decisions....Our game plan so, to speak...I love that he loves & trust me ...I think it adds more to our relationship... Not that I'm in CONTROL but, The trust & respect.Thanks
2006-09-18 01:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by pitterpatter47 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋