The best way to go about getting custody of your kid?

Question

*The boy's mother has had 2 of her 3 children taken from her for drug related and child endangernment problems

*The boy's father found out she is still legally married to someone in another state and is not separated or divorced

*He also found out she abuses medicine and has been to the hospital to have her stomach pumped 6 times since he has known her, even while she was pregnant

*The boy's father is doing well, and has taken the mother in because she has no place to go and she has slept in sheds w/ the newborn because she doesn't want the father to see the baby

*Because the boy's father is trying to persue another relationship with his ex (me) and is dedicated to his family, the mother doesn't like it and doesn't want him to see his son

*It's his first and only kid and he just wants to know the best way to get custody without taking all her rights away, but not letting her have the opportunity to try and take him away because he feels she is an un-fit mother

Answer 1

1. Report the Mother of the Child to Child Abuse Hotline.
2. IF the mother is KNOWN right now to have the infant in a Drug House -- call the POLICE immediately and report on the Hotline the location of the Drug House and the Infant.
3. DO show up for the DNA test that the Potential Dad Requests, and get the results -- what if the child is NOT biologically of the father?
4. IF you are not the father -- STAY OUT of the MESS!!!! And I MEAN THIS -- it complicates things, and the Judge will NOT look favorably on a petition IF there are OTHER parties picking on the mother of the infant.
5. OH, call Child Abuse Hotline EVERY TIME you see the Mother shacking up, abusing the infant, not caring for the infant, etc.

Answer 2

1. You report the abuse to Children's Services in your state.
2. You report the abuse to Children's Services in your state.
3. You start investigating the process to 1) make sure you have paternity established legally and then 2) get a court order for custody.
(I don't know who YOU are; the writing is not clear - but HE (the man who wants custody) has to do this. Don't "enable" him ... make him do it.