he never really talks that much. she thinks that he'll have no direction in his life. she thinks he might try something- but i know he won't. my mom will get mad even if she see's me walking with him at a football game.
2006-09-18 01:22:48 · 7 answers · asked by JENNIFER V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your mom is wrong to judge him this way. There are plenty of kids who have grown up in bad homes, but they turned out just fine. If anything it makes them into a better person. What makes her think that just because someone is in a good home the child will turn out perfect? If you look at all the people out there that have killed, molested, and so on.... Most of them came from good homes. It had nothing to do with how they were raised, it had something to do with their personality. Your mom is being very unfair and if she thinks he has no direction in life why doesn't she try and do something positive that will help him if she has so much to say. Instead of being negative she should be talking positive and trying to be a motivator for him. I hate to say this, but it's people like your mom that make other people want to give up sometimes. I hope this guy makes something of himself just to prove to your mother and everyone else that no matter what type of home your raised in you can be great no matter what. She should be ashamed of herself.
2006-09-18 01:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me. I went through the same thing a few years ago when I met my husband. He had an awful childhood, and my parents warned me to stay away from him. In some ways they were right. He didn't learn certain things from his parents. They were a horrible example. I have had to teach him a few things about marriage. I don't like his parents at all. I can't help it. I have tried to get along with them, but I just can't do it. I keep thinking about how they treated him as a child and it makes me sick! I don't think he would ever be that way to his children, but I would have rather him to have grown up like I did. I love him so much, I also knew him really well. If I was younger and didn't know him very well, it would have been different. I probably would have listend to my parents. Which, I think you should. PARENTS ARE ALWAYS RIGHT!!!!!!!!!! Take it from someone who has been in your shoes, and it wasn't that long ago. Don't date until you are ready to get married. That is what I did and I am very happy that I did. And you will never regret taking your mother's advice. Tell him the truth. Tell him that you want to focus on school or whatever, and that your family doesn't think it is a good idea for you to have any relationships at this point and you feel you should take their advice. And believe me, if he is worth having, then he will not only understand, but he will work his hardest to make sure he deserves you in the end. Let him prove himself when he knows he has to or he will lose you. Don't stay with him and hope that he proves himself, that never works because he would know that he has won without doing anything to keep you, then he won't care. Listen to your parents, they only have your best interest in mind.
2006-09-18 01:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom has been around, so their for she knows more then you, she is just trying to protect you, so you need to listen to her, their is going to be plenty of time to date, the main thing right now is for you, to concentrate on school, tell your boyfriend, just that I am going to stick to school, and just have friends, This way I will keep my Mother off my back, I hope you understand, What your mother is trying to tell you, is that your boyfriend, is going to bring a lot of baggage to your relationship, if you do not know what I mean, problems.
2006-09-18 01:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not your mums decision who you date. if you love/like this guy and you think that you can help him acheive something later in life, or now get him away from his home life and give him something positive to look foward to everyday-getting to see you-then continue it. it is your choice. never let anyone else make decisions for you. explain to your mum about your relationship and things maybe she wil understand....
2006-09-18 01:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best listen to your mother. You sound like you are still in school, so do yourself a favor and listen to her because you may have a lot to regret later on. Been there done that.
2006-09-18 01:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if your mother doesn't trust him you should hatch him closely at the very least.
2006-09-18 01:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some moms are over protective and you can¸t do nothing about it...
2006-09-18 01:27:43 · answer #7 · answered by momithesnake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋