we both are doctors.i help my husband wholeheartedly at work.he misunderstands me very often on various issues.he says all negative points about me.and makes me feel bad.In the end, it is me who says that I am sorry, to end up the whole issue. This has become a very frequent happening.It makes me feel very depressed.what should I do.
2006-09-18 01:19:59 · 9 answers · asked by pramila g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My husband always turns it around on me too. Lately it's gotten so worst that instead of letting me feel bad I'll turn around and walk out of the room. When he follows me and asks me why I left I simply tell him that if I needed someone to put me down I'd go to someone who doesn't like me's house not come home to the man that supposed to support me in everything. Slowly...very slowly it's working.
2006-09-18 01:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by arl21amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your present state and your date of birth has nothing to do. Its good that you are taking responsibility of the situations by saying sorry.
People understand from what they see, hear , smell and feel if they do no believe in the other person. It always happens that our deeds may be interpreted to something negative.
First thing you do is calmdown. Take each situation where you have been understood wrong and think what went really wrong for your husband to misunderstand you. It may happen sometimes that the way you do things is not the way it should be done.
Your husband is expressing his negative thoughts towards you means he is already in high stress. A small thing would appear to be very annoying when a person is in high stress. Because his patience levels will be low as the stress increases.
When something is going wrong repeatedly you should stop and try to find that is it really because of you or something else.
When you happen to find the reason dont be in a hurry to tell it to your husband. First try to build his trust. unless a person trusts you he will not be ready to accept what you tell him. Wait for the right time.
When you are comitted whole heartedly you will get rewarded if not immediately. These days no one helps others without expecting favours in return. People become skeptic as to why this person is helping what is he expecting in return unless they know your nature well.
REMEMBER HELP IS SOMETHING WHICH SHOULD BE GIVEN TO THE NEEDY AND SHOULD NOT EXPECT ANYTHING IN RETURN.
2006-09-18 03:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by Murali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your birth number is 8 and according to numerology the people wity number 8 are always misunderstood. Though you and your husband are in same profession and working together, it is possible that your Husband may be egostick and generally the couples from same profession face this type of difficulties. It is better for you to talk to your husband and to do practice seprately.
2006-09-18 19:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it possible to go both of u for few days to go some where , make a holiday trip. i think u both need a break from ur routine life,
make a trip to some religious place or if not possible try going out at weekends. a change always help. try going ouside maybe a candlenight dinner. & one more thing try vastushastra , some changes in ur home , may help u --- its my personal exp. & it really work
2006-09-18 01:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by he-man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Strolling home, cold evening, warm coat feel like life`s good; Look into the windows - people dining for Good Friday, chandeliers twinkling, elegance the norm. Thinking of the differences which makes our self-esteem run wild I also thought of a long-ago imail fom Lovechild. How close our lives, an ocean`s separation not the point - I`m closer to her turn of mind than to my neighbours`. So anoint Lovechild with garlands soft and scented lightly, not overcoming for she is worth the best on earth - a peaceful warrior and more - a true true woman." ..................Happy Birthday Lovechild................... :) (: ............and many many Very Happy Returns Of Your Special Day............................
2016-03-27 06:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the two of you need to go for counseling, or you can fix it yourself, communicating to each other, express yourself to him, tell him how he makes you feel, if you don"t it is going to get worst. If he is not willing to change, then you need to get out of this marriage, for your own sanity, you need to be happy, and you do not need, no one pulling you down, so do not sell yourself short, want more for yourself. Start thinking of you, and what makes you feel like a whole person. And go for it.
2006-09-18 01:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a long holiday. No work and enjoy something which u normally do not do eg. funny movies (Laurel and hardy), dramas, TV (Last resort),
2006-09-18 06:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by PG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am happy to see a matured women.... i think u cant change his mentality so the way u live now will be the best of any other way.. so continue the same thing defenetly he will change...
enjoy ur life... take care...
2006-09-18 01:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by bmbarani b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel without getting right in his face.good luck!
2006-09-18 01:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋