If you had the opportunity, how far would you stray?
2006-09-18 00:20:44 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If I truly loved the person I would never stray even if I knew I wouldnt get caught...I couldnt do that.
2006-09-20 13:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, good question , one worth thinking about quite carefully.
We are surrounded by extremely attractive members of the opposite sex!!! We see them every day and everywhere,,so, the opportunity to " stray" is there if we want to take the risk !
As a happily married woman ( 11 years, not all good, but that's normal married life) I have never been unfaithful, never even crossed my mind !! OK, OK ..it has crossed my mind, but only when he has really upset me and made me question our relationship . I've been out with the girls, approached by a handsome, charming stranger ..and momentarily I did think " what if "??? Would the grass really be greener over the other side, or is it a case of " the better the devil you know " !!
So, being honest, it has crossed my mind, but the thought of destroying my family for a bit of fun is more than I can bare. I'll just stick to window shopping and stay with my old grump !
If I ever decided to " stray " then that would be the end of my marriage, I would end it first, and then do whatever I was going to do .
2006-09-23 09:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by Paris69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, how far I might want to stray and how far I would are two different things. When you get married, you see more opportunities than ever before. You just have to squash them and not pay attention. Whoever your partner is , will be there for you a lot longer than some one night stand. And no matter how much we think we're careful, you can never be sure when something like that is going to get out. I guess I wouldn't stray at all.
2006-09-18 00:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
opportunity is not enough. to think of straying, there would need to be something seriously wrong with the relationship. I could 'nt live with the guilt ,so instead of 2 timing which is hurtful for all , I would get a divorce if the relationship was over.
I do think that some people start out by flirting ,which makes them feel better when things are not well at home. before they know it, it can develop into ,more, in which case they justify their action by saying that they were "pushed into the others arms, by their partner's ways".I can also picture women who have had their confidence knocked by an abusive partner,enjoying the kindness and positive attention of another, as they will have a need to be met,and may be unable to move on ,on their own,
i don't know what the future holds , and won't be so presumptious to think that mine will be one of the few everlasting relationships, but what i will live by is ,"do unto others, as you will have done unto you". unfortunately other people's motto ,could be, "what he/she doesn't know can't hurt them". i don't think that it is true, because even if the partner never finds out , the one doing the deed ,will have to live with guilt, lying and trying to justify what they have done to themselves. Also from experience of couples close to me, the perpetrator sometimes becomes accusative of their partner,as surely they know how easy it was to stray and be quiet about it, and they definately don't like the idea of the boot being on the other foot.(unless they are a kinky couple)
2006-09-25 20:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by saywot? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would I even be married if I were going to stray? By that I mean, why would I marry a person that I did'nt love and want to spend the rest of my life with. If you are wanting to stray, you are doing your partner and yourself an injustice.
2006-09-18 00:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by Val 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably to Europe if I could get a cheap enough flight. My dog strayed off once as far as the next village, but managed to find his way back again. Not sure if he was in a relationship though..!
2006-09-18 00:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stray--together in sickness and in health right??Why get married in the first place,if you know you may stray...that's what always gets me about cheaters,they know they like to play the field when they are single,so why bother going through all the rigmarole of a marriage and all that entails-senseless really.And MARMAR...not all guy's think with their bits,you haven't met ALL guy's deary,it seems you may have issues with previous relationships,what ever they maybe,suggest you sort them out before stereotyping men,and then tarring us all with the same brush.
2006-09-18 21:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you start straying, have you considered the "consequences" of losing and hurting the people around you. The cost may be a lot more expensive than your 15 minute quickie! Be warned for your actions!
2006-09-18 11:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by confused 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would not stray anywhere, even if the opportunity was there, as it caused huge problems.
2006-09-23 18:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never stray from my husband. I wouldn't have married him if I could not commit to him for life... opportunities or not.
2006-09-18 00:22:27 · answer #10 · answered by sarah_lynn 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋