im pregnant...im 22 i have been w/ my boyfriend for 1 1/2 years and i am pregnant....my parents are so anti kids so how should i tell them????i know i can afford a child but the big scare is tell my parents.....ughhh what have i got myself into????
2006-09-17 23:40:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Take a deep breath! How old is your boyfriend and what is the 411 there. Is he willing to commit to you and the child? Do you even want him to commit to you? More than likely your parents are not as anti kid as you think as they had you. If you can afford the child than the big problem is solved. The second biggest problem is what "YOU" want. I will tell you the decision you make now is forever either way. I got pregnant on my honeymoon, really pathetic but true. I was only 18. I was already accepted to school and living at home. I was terrified to tell my parents because my husband and I were already living with them so we could go to college. My parents had told all three of their children that they would not support any grandchildren, and because my brother was ADHD and violent they didn't want any of us to have kids anyway. They feared the violence would be genetic. Now we were bring someone else in the home. They were surprisingly great about it. They wanted us all three to live with them until we got our degrees. It saved our lives really. I would not be where I am today if it wasn't for there support. They ended up loving all of their grandchildren and being really great grandparents.
But it is your life not theirs so ultimately it is your decision.
So take sometime to think about what your really want, and then just get it done. You will have to tell them if you keep it they wont miss you getting bigger. But if you decide not to you never "have" to let them know, but it will be a big weight on your shoulders for a long long time.
Good luck and congrats!
2006-09-18 16:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by Cali Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at the bigger picture. You are NOT your parents! Your boyfriend did not make a baby with them, he made one with you. Would they rather lose a daughter that to gain a grandchild?Empower yourself and take back the power you allow your parents to have over you. If they were so anti kids as you say then where did you come from? Whatever your decision let it be based on what you want and not what your parents may want. It sounds as though you made your mind up to have your baby so the best way to tell them is to simply say "Mom and Dad I'm going to have a baby, oh can you please pass me the potatoes I'm eating for two now" Next suggestion runaway and change your name. That will get them to wondering. They can't be but so bad they allowed you to have a boyfriend. What did they think you all were doing playing scrabble? Liberate yourself from all this anxiety, the sooner you tell them the less stress you will be under during your pregnancy. This should be a happy time and once they see the bundle of joy you brought into the world lets see how ant kids they will be then.
2006-09-18 07:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not 17 anymore, your parents have no legal control over you, just tell them that you're pregnant or get married (that is if you're committed) ASAP.
Don't be afraid, you're a big girl now! They may be anti-kids but if they recognize you as an adult, don't be afraid. If they get b****y on you, well give them time.
2006-09-18 06:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by cyn1c4l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 22 years old...an adult with your own mind. If your parents are so anti-kids, then let them know they don't have to be involved in their grandchild's life, and see how quickly they re-think their position.
And...congratulations!
2006-09-18 22:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by persnickety1022 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you must relax immediately!! it's not healthy not for your or your baby. second, you must understand: you are an adolt, you're not your parent's baby anymore. now you have your own baby and you must take care of it. dont think about your parents. the decision of having a baby or not is totally yours!!! dont let anyone affect your decision.
if you feel that you're capabel of raising a baby, and you love your bf and you want to raise your child with him - then do it! dont let your parents decide it for you.
you must feel very lonely now and it's completely understandable. you should talk to a psychologist or even your gynecologist and consulte with them. hear what they say but make the decition yourself!
2006-09-18 07:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by btvsbtvs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are comfortable knowing that you can afford a baby right now, just keep reasurring your parents that you are happy and that everything will be fine.
2006-09-18 07:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mama of two 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that your loving child will be without Grandparents-- as time moves on your parents will calm down and be loving to you and your their Grandchild-- you are grown ,make your own decisions and if your parents donot approve, they will be missing out on alot of hugs and kisses from their grandkid good luck
2006-09-18 06:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is difficult for you to tell them verbally then you can write a letter and give it to them
Now it is upto you and your guy to decide if you wanna get married and settle down or not.
2006-09-18 07:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by switch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're 22 - not dependant on your parents' permission
Have the child, if you're parents love you (they should), than they should be glad for you.
2006-09-18 06:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by Walter W. Krijthe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for abortion or tell your parents about it.but if you have confidence within your self that you can upbring ur child without any problem then just go for it
2006-09-18 06:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by Nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋