abused kid other side of world ......?

Question

i dont think its a scam iv after i chatted to her i read her questions and i am rally concerend for her life ....she is very scared of her step father and i dont think she wants me to help but i cant just ignore it

Answer 1

well I don't really know what you could do for her but I just want to tell you I disagree with these people here who say you are stupid, this is a trick to get money.... I mean it is possible but this shouldn't be first assumption, because it can also be true and then you must not treat her like she's doing a trick. People here asked why she doesn't go to police then but there are reasons for this and mostly kids who are victim of abuse from side of father, stepfather or similar don't go to police with that because they are afraid of many things. They can threaten them they will hurt them more if they go to police, or her mother takes side of the stepfather.... etc. there are so many reasons, so at least you should be there as a mental support for her and don't tell her she's a liar, cause if it's true what she says then it would be very hard for her if she tells someone and is not believed.

Answer 2

We have all received various emails, chat room subjects getting out of hand & many of us been fooled or cadgoled into thinking something has happened to someone who is just playing!

But if you have had 100 of these of a period of time, you can generally say that 4% to 10% may well be true.

But WHAT can YOU do to help, you feel hopeless and feel you want to get this persons address and go and sort out this malicious coward who is abusing this child, be it physically or sexually or both!

BUT stop and think. DONT ask for the address or phone number. Tell the person who says they are abused, to contact a member of the family, say a female member of the family that they can trust.

Tell them that this is NOT her (or his) fault that this is happening, it is very very important that the abused do not see themselves as the object that has caused this to happen.

This person who is being abused is usually because the person is timid, bullied, quiet or vunerable (many reasons for this vunerability, too long to list), but if genuine, you MUST tell them to speak out, not to the abuser, sometimes they may re-act, or over-react and the violence may be too brutal and end the life of the abused, but tell them to speak to someone they trust, or if this is not possible within the family (not being believed or feel too ashamed to speak to mum or auntie or sister etc), then speak to a TEACHER at school, get a telephone number for the area for abused children (childline in the UK, etc), run to a police station when the opportunity arises,and so on.

But dont give this information all in one go, do it a little at a time, first to confide in mum or dad (depends who the abuser is, generally it is men but women too are abusers in some cases).

Your abused friend on the other side of the world, could also be someone who is saying this, so that you can send her money................

but I doubt it, she is just frightened and if its scam you will know about it. Tell her you care and give her advice on what to do, but if her LIFE is in danger, she ought to tell relatives immediately, especially if the stepfather is ruling the family with an "iron fist" so mum is also scared.

Good luck,

Answer 3

There is no help. Both customs and laws vary so much that what you think is abuse is acceptable. However, this could also be a ploy to try to obtain funds....If I had a hundred dollars, I could go to my grandmother's etc. That sort of game is used regularly to bilk people, Southeast Asia has many of these cons going on. But it is out of your hands. These operators are very crafty and try to make you force them to accept your help...Don't believe too much.

Answer 4

This is a scam,
if the kid was for real and really wanted help then don't you think they would go to the police or someone closer to home?

She's a bright girl isn't she?
Setting up her own 'donation site'

Are you totally thick or what?

Answer 5

If this young girl is being abused, then this is sad, she must ask for help. Being an abused child myself, I know how hard it is to ask for help - I NEVER.

I paid the price for not getting help in my mouth, I had traumatic experiences as an adult, such as flash backs and severe depression!

If this is a joke, then shame on her. You should be kind and offer help if asked, if you are not asked for it but feel that she wants it, then ask for goodness sake!

Answer 6

you never know if she is just saying that so you can feel bad for her and stuff like that... tell her that she needs to tell someone....
and that she should not have to be scared of her owne step dad, she should feel comfortable. DONT IGNORE IT, because this could be true but dont let it get to the point where you get her things for her comfort or any thing like that. simply tell her that she NEEDS to tell some one, if she doesnt then i guess thats her own fault.

Answer 7

If she asks for MONEY it's a scam. Otherwise she obviously has access internet encourage her to report to equivalent of child line/social services anonymously if she feels comfortabler.

Answer 8

ring childline or the new NSPCC child protection line on 0808 800 5000 & ask their advice, they are there to help & are open 24 hrs

Answer 9

You are either a sick young man or just stupid. If you are for real, go to your nearest police station and they will deal with it. Do not keep posting these questions on here.
Jesus, Yahoo staff, are you f*cking real?

Answer 10

Seeing is believing..it's a scam.