How do I avoid marrying a woman who's divorced, widowed, a single mother, or with mental/emotional baggage?

Answer 1

No such person. You should accept the one you love for what she is.

Answer 2

First, be a man with none of the above baggage - that's always a good start. Then, your best bet, since you are so particular, would be to get involved with internet dating. That way you can specifically request a certain person and anyone writing to you will be in those guidelines. Or try to get your friends to set you up with someone they know you would like. My guess is that you have more issues then you're willing to admit, which is probably why you can't find the right person.

Answer 3

My guess is you are neither divorced, widowed or single parent. However, you must have mental or emotional baggage to be such a judgemental person! Get a life!

Answer 4

just because someone may be divorced/widowed/single mother etc does not mean they are unacceptable and no longer members of society, and it does not mean they all have mental/emotional baggage. You may miss the perfect woman for you if you leave yourself such a narrow channel to find someone.

Answer 5

I think you're going to be single forever. Divorced, widowed, single mother you can avoid but, mental/emotional baggage?????

Answer 6

This implies that you have none of the above yourself.....right? If the pool of women that's at your age group is the group you mentioned, that means you are probably at LEAST above 32 years old.......which means that you also have some baggage yourself.
By the time you hit your 30s or40s, there's not many men OR women out there who don't fit into one of the above categories. And here's the thing.........ALOT of us women who fit into the above categories have gotten past the "it's all about me" phase, we've matured, grown as people and learned alot about ourselves, we've learned to be sacrificing and selfless, gotten tough, learned what we want and don't want........and a plethora of other things that come with those experiences you mentioned.
So if you don't' want those qualities, I'd say aim for the 20 something girls that are still often clueless, the world revolves around them, they are still trying to "find themselves", and often think a bad hair cut is a tragedy. Good luck.

Answer 7

Try living in a cave, I'd suggest that if you're not willing to take on a little bit of baggage that you forget the whole marriage thing totally.

Answer 8

Sorry buddy, but there is no such thing as anyone without emotional baggage. Our emotions is what makes each of us unique. You probably better stay single.

Answer 9

I don't think you can these days. It depends on the age group too i think. Most of the young people these days (from babies - 40+) has been exposed to SOOO many things. From music to newspapers to tv & movies.

Apart from that there's more drugs and booze problems out there and people are more aware of mental illness these days.

Answer 10

You might want to try hanging around an elementary school. Those kids haven't developed yet and maybe you can mold them into what you want them to be. Just kidding! Let me say this....I am a woman who is divorced, am currently a single mother to a 2 yr old little girl, and I burried my 5 yr old son in march 2005. I am a great find for someone. Why? Becuase going through that school of life has changed me, bettered me, and gave me new things to look forward to, push towards and just go for. Being divorced taught me how to be a better woman. To be strong and independant and stick up for myself. It has also taught me that I deserve certain things in a relationship and am too good for other things (like cheating and abuse). I know what kind of man I want to give myself too because of my failed marriage. Being a single mother has taught me to never give up. That no matter what goes on in my life I have this little girl who thinks the world of me. It has taught me responsibility, stability and that I can do this by myself! I don't need anyone's help. Burrying myt child? Wow! That's the stinger. Of course I was an emotional basket case at first. But I litterally had to pick myself up from the ground up and move on. I miss the crap out of him. I will always miss him and cry for him as the years pass. But caring for him and then accepting his passing on has been a bitter sweet experience. He was a special needs child. I learned to selfless. To put my needs aside for his. To fight for him and what I believe in and be his advocate not just his mother. I struggled and it made me stronger, gave me insight and further more taught me things that without him i would have never learned. I was too selfish before I had him. I am currently a full time student going for my Bachelor's of Science in Nursing. Then I am going to Physical therapy school. I could never have done that or believed I could without those things I went through in life. My question is this: Would you want a woman who was a part of your life because she truly experienced life and KNOWS what she wants? IS secure enough within herself to allow her to be with you? Or do you want someone who is uncertain in life, goes with the flow but never has the confidence or independace to make it really work? If you find someone with out those factors, good for you. But you are shunning a major category of women out by only focusing on 1 type of women. You might be the one missing out. Regardless, good luck.

Answer 11

Keep on the lookout for regular, single women - they are out there! Avoid bars.