If he marries me just out of pity will i be happy after marriage?
2006-09-17 22:36:31 · 28 answers · asked by kuti 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
U can choose to be happy because he's with u but the real question is: Will the marriage last?
2006-09-17 22:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!! :o) I suppose you should ask yourself WHY you would WANT to marry a man who is still unsure of his feelings for you. He's telling you how he feels. He's being HONEST about how he feels. Don't dismiss what's he's saying and just HOPE that 'things' will turn out OK. And don't be so desperate TO marry that you'll 'settle' for anyone. Hold off on any wedding plans. Craig!! :o)
2006-09-18 05:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can be sure of their happiness in whatever case. You can try to make happiness and it mostly comes from you yourself. You will get what you give. If you love him and show it whole heartedly and sincerely, i am quite sure that your love will be responded, maybe not the way that you expect it, but it will be responded. Don't be pushy or pressure somebody for love, do what is necessary to show that you love him. If you pressure somebody to get him to marry you, maybe he will marry you but this will haunt you someday in the future when problem arises. Let him decide himself and be yourself. If you play acting your feelings, after marriage you may not be able to continue this and problems will arise. good luck
2006-09-18 06:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kimosabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will definately be happy until the first time he says or does something to whip the rug from under your feet,,then you will have nothing but insecuruties,doubts about whether or not it will last,,whether or not he will meet someone else,whether or not he loves you any more,,to have certainty,as far as humanly possible,,both must have the same feelings of committment for any relationship to work out.married or not.would you really marry someone who would do it for you out of pity? what a way to think.
2006-09-18 05:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you deserve a man who is crazy in love with you. someone who you are sure of . why accept crumbs from this man. if he marries you out of pity, when he finds one he really loves, the pity will be gone. don't do it. why let yourself, and any children you may have, get such a bad start to their life?
2006-09-22 01:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by cee jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, cos you will never feel secure. You will always have questions in your head - whether he truly loves you, whether you should have chosen not to marry him, whether you could have met someone else who truly loves you, whether there is such thing as love etc etc etc...
Wait till he is sure, a good thing is always worth waiting for. Otherwise, be thankful that you waited so that both parties have a second chance at love, probably with someone else.
2006-09-18 05:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by Janleelim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do this mistake of marryin ghim at present. either give more time to you both or forget about him.
Cause here u are taking very big chance, after marriage if he likes you then u are goingto have very good marriage and if not than the worst nightmare of your life you are going to face.
so why to take chance, wait for sometime and watch what's happening with him and then take decision.
2006-09-22 04:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by Hidimba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The #1 key word you used for your feelings was "like". The combination of that & the fact he is unsure of his feelings should tell you something. Just take your time and you'll find the answer to this yourself.
2006-09-18 05:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by Goin' for #3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no "Lived-happily-ever-after" formula in real life! So it's better to understand the feelings of your man before jumping straight into marriage.
2006-09-18 05:46:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he agree to marry, if he is unsure of his feelings? Pity is a sad basis to start a marraige. Where is your self esteem.??
2006-09-18 05:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by twoshotjudy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋