I have been in a relationship for 7 years, my wife just left me for a coworker. We have a 6 year old child. I am devastated. I didn't see it coming.
2006-09-17 22:27:52 · 10 answers · asked by heather 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when a relationship ends it is like a death. you must go through a greiving period. Try to stay emotionally stable although it is terribly hard. This is the time you really need friends and family. Talk about how you feel. Time will make it a little better. I will not tell you it gets better over night because it may hurt for years. You can begin by remembering the good times and try to not dwell so much on the bad. You will have to deal with her to visit your child. So try to stay as civil and "friendly" as possible. It will make visitation much easier. Try to find things to do with your child. Don't let them see you upset if possible.That will only make them feel like it is their fault.
Hang in there bud, it gets better, but it will be tough for a while.
2006-09-17 22:35:13 · answer #1 · answered by marilee w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been browsing through looking at Q's to answer and coming across yours i feel that i am unable to reply but i will give you my best. I am fortunate enough to be with my first ever partner/boyfriend-12 years, three kids. We've had our ups and downs and came close twice to separating.
I have never been in your position and would not like to be, i can only imagine your feeling of sadness. I personally feel a sense of disgust towards people involved in breaking up families through affairs. I hear about this happening around the place and i really feel for the kids, they are the main victims. All i can say is my heart goes out to you and yours and i hope there's a light at the end of the tunnel. I am sure you will find the courage to move on and you will find a soul mate who will cherish you. Warm wishes to you and your little one.
2006-09-18 05:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me I know, It is a hard thing to handle! But I had realized that if he truly wanted to be with me & my child he would have stayed with us!!!!! Do you have your 6yr old or does she? I also know that it can make you feel guilty, worthless, etc. You begin to blame your self for him/her leaving, and then you let so many different reasons pop in your mind! You wonder about the dumest things! That is one of the reasons why you are devastated! And if she has your baby and you are a very devoted & loving father, that is also another reason why you are devastated! If she has left your child with you, then that could also be another reason for being devastated as well,because your child is wanting to know where mommy is and you are going to have to explain to your child that mommy does not live with you guys anymore! I know that it is extremely hard for you right now, because she had just up and left you or the both of you for no paticular reason at all! It will be hard on you for a little while to begin with, but then you will come to realize that maybe if she had stayed with you her attitude and feelings for you would just begin to get very bad if not worse, because she was not happy! There are so many different reasons why men & women leave their Families & spouces! In the beginning it does not make any sence at all, but as the time goes on, we begin to realize,& understand, that there was a good reason why all of that pain, & grief, had happend to us!
I know that I did! And I understand now that it was not my fault that it happend, that it was just not meant to be for the two of us to be together!!!!!
Good Luck!
2006-09-18 07:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no words that I can say to make you feel better, but just remember time heals. I am a Roman Catholic and I am unwell, but I find solace in God. Whenever, I am feeling unhappy I will go and sit at church and this in itself is very calming and peaceful. I would also suggest taking up a hobby of some kind. Try and keep yourself occupied. If it is really unbearable, talking to someone is also helpful. I do hope everything works out for you and your daughter. God bless!
2006-09-18 05:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mate i feel for you....i was with my gf for 2 years living in the same house when she left me for a drug addict..its been 4 months and still it hurts me.i scar that will never heal...
look mate i know your problem is much worse than mine but all i can say is..in time wounds will heal...she doesnt deserve you..remember that you are better than her and its her loss not yours..u have to now just relax...be yourself and now at times do the things you have always wanted to do.in time you will find another...20 times as good as her...dont go looking 4 it...she will come
2006-09-18 05:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is that it will take quite some time to restore your self esteem and pride. The truth of it is this... if she no longer loved you then you don't need her in your life. You deserve to be giving you love to someone who wants it and returns it to you. My guess is that it will stay with you for a long time until you meet someone new... which you will,
2006-09-18 05:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it hurts a lot it happened to me it takes a long time to get over but you have your Son to put your love in to i hope you get over it soon go out and look for new love you will find it keep busy look ahead not back good luck to you and your son
2006-09-18 05:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss, please go and see a councillor, other wise you are going to continue to beat your self over some thing you have no control over
2006-09-18 13:40:07 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THINGS DO HAPPEN FOR GOOD.
You be happy,flashes do come from our memories.
You can let it go for another flash which will keep you happy.
2006-09-18 05:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by SKG R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will take long to have your pain out........always pray and be strong always,.accept the situation slowly so you can move on........
2006-09-18 05:32:45 · answer #10 · answered by gwyn_41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋