I was just on a trip where I took my husband to meet my family. My sisters husband was there and his dad. The kids were playing in the pool and everything was fine. My sister had a lady friend of her's come over who happened to be a pregnant stripper, ALL of my husbands attention and conversation went to this woman. They were not talking about too much of anything but I felt it was disrespectful for my husband to take so much time on this woman/stranger. He seem to be all in her mouth and lingering off of her words. I finally said something to him and he did not even get that it was rude. My sister noticed it and everything. He had to be told to go sit in the other room with the men and leave the ladies to do the girlie talk. I felt so disrespected, he spent more time trying to talk to this lady before getting to know my family and representing me good. Do you think I'm wrong? I think it was disrespectful and TACKY. WHAT YOU THINK?
2006-09-17 22:19:31 · 10 answers · asked by notknown 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, he really has no clue huh? I think u were justified in feeling the way u did. I agree that he was very disrespectful to u and to your family. Let him know how u feel and request for him never to do this again with another female. And next time, ask your sister not to bring this stripper friend of hers when u have get togethers.
2006-09-17 22:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was blatantly disrespectful. It is also done now and he will never admit to being caught in the act. It does however raise the question as to what else he has been doing. If there is another time this happens either don't attend or hand him some money in front of everyone and say " Maybe you would like to see her work otherwise why are you trying so hard ot get her attention?" Naturally, he will deny it. The woman will take the hint and remove herself from the unwanted attention. It is unfortunate though because she may have felt just as uncomfortable in that situation as you did and didn't want to make a scene. If that was the case she should have left. If she encouraged it then you are within your rights to say and do what you want.
2006-09-18 01:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was disrespectful but there's a case for entrapment here. It was disrespectful and stupid of your sister to distract your husband with a stripper. The stripper should not have been invited to a family gathering, and if she dropped in she should have been sent away.
Look at it from your husband's point of view: He has a lifetime to meet the family, but probably not many chances to meet a stripper. So I'd say you should cut him some slack and don't give your sister a free pass she doesn't deserve.
2006-09-17 22:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband did disrespect you. He wasn't interested in the other women, just the fact she was a stripper impressed him. For some reason, men think because a women is a stripper, she is going to be easy. I'm sorry your husband didn't understand he was being rude. Of course, maybe he might understand if you turned the tables on him so he can see how you felt.
2006-09-18 04:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done nothing wrong. It is only polite to look at someone's face when talking to them. Imagine this, walking around for the rest of your life with your head down so that you don't accidently catch a glimpse of a man's face. Doesn't sound easy to me. Oh and what if you had a brother, you couldn't even look at him:O Anyone who says that a woman must always follow the wishes of a man is sexist, a woman has equal rights. Xxx
2016-03-27 06:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I do not think you are wrong! I think that it was very disrespectful of him! The two of you went on this trip so that he could meet your family, not find a Mistress! He did not only disrespect, & humilate you, but he also showed no respect for your family, and he also showed you and your family what a disrespectful,& coniving jerk that he is!!!!!!!
I Wish You the Best Of Luck!!!!!!
2006-09-18 04:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you married a high-class man NOT NOT NOT!!!
You married yourself there garbage.
sorry about that. It's true.
Any man who would be that disrespectful in front of his wife, his wife's family, or any time is not worth two cents!!
Now you have to live with your choice,
or better yet,
if you have no kids HURRY AND DIVORCE THIS LOSER!!! I'm dead serious! No joke! Don't get any kids involved in this, it will only get much worse!
You two need to talk about what has happened.
It is very serious in my book.
good luck!
2006-09-17 22:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
couch him for the next few days
2006-09-18 00:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
very rude let him know
2006-09-17 22:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by chunkybaby 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
where is that stripper now?
2006-09-17 22:28:03 · answer #10 · answered by bombayfriends2001 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋