2006-09-17 22:01:11 · 25 answers · asked by tracy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No it's not terrible, if you don't want to get married don't get married.
2006-09-17 22:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you watched a movie about people getting married and most of the marriages ended up being more trouble (in your eyes) than anything else, would that movie inspire you to get married?
Think about how many movies, tv shows, newspaper articles, star magazines, and tabloids that feature happy marriages with two people living a complete wonderful life (which is the whole reason for marriage in the first place right?) There's not very many are there, if any? People as a society are flooded from every direction with images and thoughts of fast love, sex, and fiery passion which almost always leads to hot tempers, divorce wars, mudslinging and whatever else.
It could be that there is nothing wrong with you at all. Maybe you just want to have love without all the problems that you expect to come with it..
2006-09-18 05:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by Shadowstorm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends why. Not everyone has to marry. You may be afraid to marry a bad choice and that is good. You may not be ready to marry and that is good to know that. You may not be the the type of person who is going to thrive being married and that is okay. If you are dealing with something I would get some counseling so you can get through it, so you can be happy with your life. It is okay if you do not want to get married, but fear is something to work on. You do not have to do anything that you do not want to. Do not do this because society says you should or family says you should. Do what you want when you want to. Trust your instincts, but if you are unhappy and fearful work on that for your own comfort not for the purpose of getting married. Have the life you want and find your own way to happiness. We do not all have to be the same and fit into a mold that is boring anyway.
You did not give enough information here for me to have any idea of what is going on in your situation. This is the best I could do with such a broad question.
2006-09-18 05:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its an exercise in life. It is what you make it.
There are two different people, committing to each other and vowing to honor and to respect each other. So long as you both honor those requirements you have a good chance of making it. Even if you don't make it you should be able to break up amicably.
I would suggest that before you do, sit down and go over a set of goals for yourself and the both of you honestly share your individual likes and dislikes. What you will tolerate and what you will not. Be as thorough as you can. These will be your by laws.
Marriage is a partnership...not eternal bliss. There will be good times as well as bad. Love, honesty, respect and consideration for each other should get you through the bad. Here is a quote to live by. "Don't do anything to somebody that you wouldn't want done to yourself".
2006-09-18 05:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is the best thing a that two people can especially if they love each other and they make a great team. You will know about the guy you marry if you will make a great team. Sure it is not easy and yes it is work but it can be fun work and there are alot of things that can you can do has a couple that you can't do has a single and I don't mean just making love I mean other things
2006-09-18 05:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not to me. If you really love someone, and they love you; then you are starting out with good intentions with one another. You can't really cross a bridge before you get to it, if you follow me; but you can be in control of what happens if you use the gift of communication when things get tough. Life is not always a walk in the park; but with good intentions, and love it is possible to be happy with the person you chose to spend your life with.
Perhaps it's a case of "there's nothing to fear but FEAR itself"
Good luck.
2006-09-18 05:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Bluebells21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you fear it dont do it nobody would tell me about alot of stuff before i got married but once i was married all i heard was the negatives about marriage which I have grown to know about my own marriage would i change some things yes but do i still love my hubby yes
2006-09-18 05:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it not dear, Its just the uncertainties in marriage that ur scared of not marriage itself. Don't worry when the right man comes around, even fear can not stop u from getting married.
2006-09-18 05:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by hottest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage can be terrifying, but I think the prospect of remaining single your entire life is a lot scarier!
The decision on whom you marry is the most important decision you'll make in your life. It should be made carefully. You need to find someone that's right for you, but it's silly to hold out for someone who is perfect in every way. You just need to figure out which flaws matter and which ones don't, and then hook up with someone whose flaws don't bother you that much. :-)
2006-09-18 05:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its just terriable as u say in ur english
2006-09-18 05:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by Snifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not...but i would preffer you get married at a right age when you've become successful or have a good job to support a family...don't be like other people who maried at a very yong age because of love...love can't help you if you didn't plan ahead you would be burdend with problems....^_^
2006-09-18 05:06:22 · answer #11 · answered by Arch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋