Im 36 my wife is 52 she has 4 grone daughters the youngist is 25 im still paying her rint im the step father all the money i make gos to my wife and her daughters and im left with nuthing, my wife dont even give me sex , im married 9 1/2 years , i dont leve because my wife takes all my money and im fat with some scars so women find me repolsive cuse im ugly but i want to be loved what can i do im realy getting deprast , some times i wish i was dead then there be no more problems please im ok i just need advise
2006-09-17 21:50:27 · 13 answers · asked by ahandyman2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
how dare this woman take such an advantage of you ..... I have a son of 17 yrs old and been married for 3 I would never expect my husband to pay anything for my son as he is my responsibility .... yes he is good that he provides a roof over our head but i work full time to help maintain our home ...... Please this lady is not only draining you financially but is draining you emotionally ..... try confiding in a friend or relative and be open and honest... also tell your wife that this has to stop and that her youngest daughter needs to be financially independant...... If she wont agree to this I personally think you should muster all your courage up and leave her ..... and start a new life and try and build your confidence back up and lead a happy and fulfilling life in a life that you like and even love yourself ...... Good luck
2006-09-17 23:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by dee9166 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're her sugar-daddy, pal.
She's using you big time, and probably cheating on you as well.
Why are you so afraid of being alone with yourself and on your own? Why do you feel like you have be with a "mommy" all your life, even if you're paying out the butt for her? This woman is not your wife, (well, legally she is), she's your controlling, abusive mother.
You need to divorce her and fight for as much as you can to get from her. It doesn't matter what you look like. Women don't care about that crap!! It only matters what type of man you are, how you treat them, how you care for yourself.
You obviously don't care for yourself.
You should not be paying for a grown daughter's ANYTHING. You LEGALLY have no rights to pay for her, so why are you? Be a man for a minute and put your foot down and STOP LETTING THESE WOMEN WALK ALL OVER YOU!!!
And, your wife has no rights to take your money, either!
You can very easily and legally change where your money is deposited to, or simply, DON'T GIVE HER THE CHECK, (duh). You don't HAVE to give her a single penny! You don't owe her a dime! She's not doing anything for you, obviously, so stop letting her abuse you, manipulate you, control you, by giving in to her.
Anyway, change where your money goes. Open an account at a totally different bank and make sure that they understand that she should have absolutely no access to it whatsoever. If you want someone to share the account with you, pick your dad or mom, not this woman. Then make sure the basic bills are payed and the groceries are taken care of, then let her fend for herself. Since the children are grown and she's a grown woman she can get a job to buy her own things (you can help with clothing, but you pick where she gets it and how much she spends, otherwise, she needs to get a job).
Do this, and it will test her heart to you. You won't have to leave her, she'll leave you, then you won't have to worry about it at all. If she truly loves you, then she'll change and respect you for being a real man por fin, I mean, finally.
Otherwise, I would divorce her and get a really good lawyer and fight my butt off to get as much from her as possible.
Good luck, bro.
2006-09-17 22:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man. Most of these people on here giving advise are single and talk a lot of bs. You are suppose to support your family. I feel after 18 your suppose to help them. You don't have to support them financially all the time. You can support them mentally. And how are they going to learn how to fall and stand back up on there own if you don't let them. And at 25 I would put her in the navy. You have to push them out of the nest and see if they will fly and they will. And talk to your wife about your feelings to see how she really feels about you. If it hurts your feelings and theres no hope then leave. Your are the head of the family and you always have a say so in everything. Don't let people walk over you. Go to the gym workout. Enjoy yourself make yourself happy sometimes. And I know why you married older women. :)
2006-09-17 22:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are ppl out there who look for a good soul, not a good faces. Sweet man, give your wife an altremanation (chose)
1. She get tell her girls to get there own jobs and money. She tried you like a huband and not her slave
or
2. You leave and she take care of them and herself. At first it will be hard, but you'll be happer in the end
Besides there are lots of groups you can join or churchs. You just have to go looking.
2006-09-17 21:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by Sekkennight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do feel sorry for you but you need to stand tall cause you have a good heart..so get strong and start keeping the money and get out...better to be alone than be used by these worthless females...your wife and daughters are just using you and your kindness..your better off leaving..or kicking them out
2006-09-17 21:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave her ... her daughter is 25 years old for christ sake, she should support her own *** ... she's an adult ... you have no responsibility to take care of her kids. I'm 23, I work, pay my own school tuition, and my own rent.
sorry to tell you this .. she's just using you .... i hope she signed a pre-nup.
divorce her, work your *** off, make as much money as you can, then go party, travel or whatever you wanna do. you need to enjoy your money ... she doesn't deserve any single penny you make. good luck.
2006-09-17 21:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by Tartlettes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello Mr Deadbeat Dad. Giving support to your family, I thought that's what the head of house hold did. Oh I forgot, we live in the year where the cowboys ran the country. Live up to your obligation and help your family loser dad. If you don't ,I'll see you on the Jerry Springer Show because your family left you and move out the double wide.
2006-09-17 21:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
not fair at all, those girls should be making at least some money by now
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2006-09-17 21:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by absoluteao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you taken a spelling course lately?
2006-09-17 21:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
they are using you... this is not love any way!
so what you're in is in NOWAY a solution for what you're looking for!
Look for what you want somewhere else!
2006-09-17 22:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by o.s. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋