My fella just got back from a big gay holiday in Gran Canaria and admitted he'd had bum sex with some random. He said he still wanted to be with me, but I promptly finished it with him. We'd only been together a few months, and I said he could do what he wanted, although I didn't think he'd go all the way with someone. Was I a bit rash to finish things so suddenly?
2006-09-17 21:48:06 · 28 answers · asked by calebolly 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hiya. It was a bit silly to say do what you want as he has obviously took it like you mean it. But he has also shown a total lack of commitment and respect for you by going all the way with this fella. At least you know what sort of person he is before getting into anything too serious.
2006-09-17 21:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by kerrylonglegs9 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think there should always bee an opening for a forgiveness in any relationship, especially in gay ones, and living in London there are many temptations around, this doesn't mean he doesnt love you. I forgave my man for cheating on me when i was home in Sweden. And now 2 years on we are the happiest couple ever. To love is to be able to forgive. and sex isnt the foundation of a relationship, its the emotions you care for one another that matters...
so go get him before its too late...
2006-09-18 11:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you did give him "permission", I'd think you were being a bit harsh, but I don't think that a series of medical tests would be unreasonable.
If you had an "agreement" then you have no real room to complain if he took the agreement to be exactly as stated.
2006-09-18 07:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally agree with Everona97. You don't mention whether it was unprotected sex but either way, he's put himself in real danager and you too. You CANNOT take risks these days with care-free sex abroad.
You were 100% right to dump him.
2006-09-18 05:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by Ian W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how much you've invested in the relationship. Do you think it's worth giving another try. You might want to concider giving him another chance. He did confess.
2006-09-18 04:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all- cheating is cheating so you were well within your rights to end it. If you ahd stayed with him, he would have got the message that it was ok to cheat and wouldn't think anything to do it again..
Good luck, go find someone who will respect and care gor your feelings
2006-09-18 04:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you told him he could do what he wanted, what did you think was going to happen? Seems to me you opened the door, gave him carte blanche, and now punish him for taking you up on your offer. Not very nice. You set him up and pitched him out. Not very smart. And I doubt if it matters. If I were he, and you asked me to come back, I would simply tell you to get lost.
2006-09-18 05:03:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you were right to finish with him. He obviously wants his cake and eat it. If he is gay then he is gay, if he is straight then he is straight, if he is bisexual then he is bisexual. But whatever he is the person he wants to be in relationship with has to agree to that. I personally would not agree. It sounds to me as if he needs to look at who he is. You must do what is right for you and forget him otherwise i see problems for you. Be strong and good luck
2006-09-18 04:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by Susie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Relationships of any kind are based on trust.
If there is no trust there is no relationship
You did the right thing
2006-09-18 07:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the Gay scene is full of slags, give him a break, changes are if you are honest you too have been flirting if not more. We are all just sexual deviants let's not punish each other.
2006-09-18 04:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by Powerpuffgeezer 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋