2006-09-17 21:24:30 · 41 answers · asked by Nina 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You are a wonderful mother. Every good mother worries about their kids there is nothing wrong with this. Maybe to ease your mind maybe if you can call every couple of hours or maybe on your breaks. Just to check in with them.
2006-09-17 21:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore Amelia's comments - she doesn't know what your circumstances are. Some of us just aren't in the position to be able to make a choice between working and not working.
It is perfectly natural to worry about your baby. If we didn't do that then the human race would have died out millenia ago! I work full time and I worry that whether my baby's OK. But I am fortunate to know that she is with a good child minder that she adores and I know that she has a great time when she's there - some days she is much fun that she doesn't want to come home!
But you sound really unhappy, so it might be worth asking yourself a few questions.
- Do you really have to work? Is there anyway you can spend more time with your baby, even if it means only working part-time?
- Are you entirely happy with your childcare arrangements? Perhaps you're worrying because you have a niggling concern about whether your baby is happy during the day? You might like to think about other childcare arrangements like a child minder instead of a nursery etc.
- You don't say how old your baby is, but if he/she is under 1 year old, there is still a possibility that you could be suffering from post-natal depression. A chat to your doctor might be worthwhile.
But whatever happens, you can only try your best. All parents worry - its perfectly natural, but just don't let it become so out of hand that it ruins the time you do have with your little one.
2006-09-17 23:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by babyalmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because while at work you are being deprived of interraction with your baby. Therefore concerning your baby for the past however many hours there is a big 'unknown' there for you. Humans naturally fear the unknown. For you this fear is most likely amplified since you are a mother and the unknown involves your helpless baby.
You are a very good mother for having this worry and anxiety. I wish i would've had a mom like you.
Should this worry ever suddenly just disappear then that is the time to panic.
Believe it or not the russian military used to use baby rabbits in their submarines a long time ago to signal the sub when command wanted them to surface and make radio contact. How they did it was that the mother rabbit would be onboard the sub and her babies would be at the command post. When command wanted a specific sub to surface they would kill or torture one of the baby rabbits for that sub and the mother onboard would instinctively know somehow and would start panicking.
for the creeps that thought that one up i hope there is a special reservation in hell with there name on it.
2006-09-17 21:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by Shadowstorm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People ar emean to say that since you work you aren't a good mom or anything else they are saying. If you miss your child that is so normal, call the sitter as often as you want a get a check up on them. Thats what I did when I went to work. But after a while you began to trust the sitter more and more and you will call less. Once you know for sure your child is 100% taken care of your worries will subside. However being a good mom they will NEVER go away. They are always going to be "your baby" its your job to worry.
2006-09-17 23:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realy dont understand why people are putting you down for asking this question.
I also am a working mother. I am lucky in the fact that my mother and mother-in-law both look after my daughter whilst I am working. And I dont go to work to be selfish - I go to work so that I know I am providing my child the best I can.
The thing is, if you were on here saying you were a stay-at-home mother, there would be people on here criticising you for living off of tax-payers money. You just cant win.
Its totally understandable to feel worried though. I'm guessing you have only just gone back to work from the concern you seem to have. Dont worry it does get easier. You wouldnt have knowingly put your child in danger, so I think you know deep down there are safe.
2006-09-17 21:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing in the slightest, you just need to adjust to this new life. I am a single working parent and my daughter has been in full-time care since she was 4 months old. Of course you are going to worry, but if you can't afford not to go out to work then try and reassure yourself by getting you childcare provider to write a diary for your child so you know what they are doing everyday. You need to learn to trust this person/people so take a minute everyday when you pick your baby up and talk to them about how they think he/she is progressing. I found this really helped me as I started to see that they were paying attention and noticed the personality of my daughter. Just battle through and I promise you will be fine.
2006-09-17 21:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by Ria K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how bad it is. I have the same problem, although it's not worried about my children as I don't have any, but I worry about my pets. It's to the degree when I went to work that was literally all I thought about, and I constantly had a sick feeling in my stomach. It got so bad the stress made my glandular fever relapse. I eventually went to the doctor and have been diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder and anxiety disorder. I've been given tablets, and to help ease the anxiety I now work from home. If you feel it's as bad or similar to mine, you probably have some sort of chemical imbalance. It gets worse over time if you don't fix it.
2006-09-17 21:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by alysseq_86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing in wrong with you. I am a mother of 3 and work full time. Worrying about your children is natural but if you are worrying to the point where you are making yourself sick i would be wondering if there was a way that i could work and look after my babies.
I hope you find your answers..... Children are wonderful (even when they are teenagers!)
2006-09-17 21:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by pinxta01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all mothers worry about their baby. I would call all the time to check on mine because they would cry when I left and you will worry about them when they grow up to. It never stops and it don't make you a bad mother, because any more if your married or single the mom has to work. I wish there was a way that the moms didn't have to work until their kid starts school.
2006-09-18 01:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by myrtle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, it is natural for a mother to worry. It what makes you a mother and a woman.
You ask any one they all worry about their baby. From the day it is conceived to the end of your life you will never stop worrying. Nothing is wrong with you unless being normal, caring and loving is wrong!!!!!
2006-09-17 21:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋