friends,
My husband likes intercourse every day. if i won't allow him for one night next day he will be fully upset. What to do for this?
Is it all the married men same?
2006-09-17 21:17:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Moody-no interest in anything.
Getting angry for everything
2006-09-17 21:20:46 · update #1
If you are newly married, please talk to your husband and express your feelings. But do not confront him. Tell him that, like he wants pleasure everyday, you too have a say in this.
Talk to him about your other needs - need to understand each other- tastes, hobbies etc. "You are going to share your life and just not the bed" is the message that need to get across. Of course, it got to be done tactfully.
2006-09-19 05:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not all men are the same. I think I would let him know that this is getting to be a chore because of his demands and it should be spontaneous, fun and something you both want. I would let him know that maybe everyother day is better for you (whatever you would like) and the anticipation, romance and the want must be there. Tell him sex is not a chore but a wonderful love between a couple and you'll be much more into it if he backs off a little. Tell him to also spend more time on planning it out giving you both something to look forward to and let him know that sometimes him just holding you and spending time enjoying a great conversation can be awesome. Give a little and get a little. Good luck!
2006-09-17 21:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is behaving like a child who's deprived of what he wants! Explain to him that you can't do it every night because some nights you are just too exhausted!
Ask him to respect your wishes and promise him that on the nights you are in the mood, you will give him great sex to compensate for those nights he has to go without! However, he has to stop behaving like a kid the following mornings after the non-sex periods.
Another alternative is for him to help you with the daily chores in the house. This will enable you to have more sex with him in the evenings, right? By the way, don't you enjoy having sex with him?
2006-09-17 21:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to chill. Marriage is a wonderful trust and bond and sex is a very healthy and normal part of marriage. Having said that, marriage is not some kind of entitlement to sex on command... people are allowed to be too, tired, ill, sick, or heaven forbid, just not in the mood. He really needs to lighten up. To be honest it makes me a little uncomfortable for you. I could see his attitude if you have been married for less than two months, otherwise he needs to take a cool shower now and then or try shaking hands Ol' Captain One-Eye before he goes to sleep. It is not you... it is him. Not to freak you out here but remember that you should never be forced into sex there are marital rape laws established to keep you safe and don't allow his moodiness or anger to grow into vilolence... always take care of yourself.
2006-09-17 21:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, this is quite abnormal. Not the sex part, but his attitude.
It sounds like he's suffering from depression.
He really should get checked.
The sex thing is okay. My husband is like this and I like it. Be lucky and happy he's not looking elsewhere to satisfy his needs.
Usually a man who doens't want sex all the time has more problems. (speaking from experience here).
The reason I say depression is cuz he's looking for ways to feel better. His aggression and bad behavior and attitude is a good sign of frustrated anger from depression.
Everyone shows depression in a slightly different way.
Another thing could be is that he could be looking at porn and not masturbating and so until he can have sex with you he's all crampy and painful and irritable until he can get that long awaited release. He also could be working with really hot and sexy women that drive him nuts in his head, and because he's faithful to you, won't cheat, and so just can't wait to get home and share that with you, and if he can't, it just builds up until he just can't stand it anymore.
Good luck. He needs to be more understanding towards you, but you two really ought to go to marriage counciling to help this situation.
2006-09-17 21:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried reassuring your husband that you do love him, but on the days you don't want sex, the reason isn't about him, but for your own comfort level? Many young married men are like him in wanting sex every day. It gets less and less as they get older. It sounds like he is just feeling rejected and thinks you don't love him or want him anymore. You'll need to be firm, but sensitive with him. Is he making sure you have your pleasure first before he gets his? If not, you may need to explain to him that he must do that for you to want sex as often as he does. Many newly married women are not easy to please because they aren't used to intercourse and can't fully relax. Ask him to help you with it and experiment to see what is most pleasurable for you. If he has to think about you and your needs before his own, he might slow down somewhat.
2006-09-17 21:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by LadyLgl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only, all were the same, crikey my husband can go 2 weeks without even a hint of sex and I can be climbing the walls! But I have to admit, everyday could be a difficult one. I would have to say he must help himself in the shower and respect your wishes.
2006-09-17 21:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by Gill T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a big baby. Let him be moody. He will get over it. Don't feel guilty, you have the right to say no sometimes especially if you had a bad day! My sister tell me that's how her husband gets when she says not tonight. He pouts the next day! But eventually he gets over it. Next time tell him to relieve himself so he won't be mad the next day!
He needs to respect your wishes when your not feeling up to it.
2006-09-17 21:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moody husband-married people plese!?
2014-12-15 03:48:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is the same way. He spent all weekend mad and yelling. I'm hoping that this is a normal thing also. Good luck.
2006-09-18 00:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by lighthouse lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋