to get friendly with me. As society doesn't allow and accept friendship of man and woman. If they go along definately will get bad name as being in some relationship. Although I am very good natured and everybody likes me no body come and sit with me and doesn't feel comfortable if I go and sit with them. This all humilates me and I feel insulted and try to be with my isolated seat where I can not hear and see anybody. Rest of the office is sitting at one place and enjoying normal atmoshphear. It does not look nice being female to go and beg their company . Reading and other activities makes me tired. I am not quite personality I love talking people and freindly with everybody. I have to bear this all for 10 long hours as I am not loaded with work . Please advise how to protect my self respect and be firm not to go anybody to beg.
2006-09-17 20:34:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
HI, you have not mentioned the nature of your duty in office. If you are handling the front office, you will not feel the load of work or lonliness at all.
If you love your job, then you will not be conscious about your surroundings. I suggest you to start adoring your job, whatever it be. Just develop love towards your job first.
Its better you don't allow the male collegues around you to be closer to you. If they stay away from you by themselves, be happy and stay away from them too. You are there to work for the salary and don't have any other distractions. There is nothing wrong in male and female friendship. But being a female, just don't beg anybody for their company.
Leave alone your academic years. Now you are in a job. Your way of dressing, expressions on your face when you are amidst a crowd, your hair do, your voice, your behaviour with your sub-ordinates and higher officials - needs to be sculptured according to your office environment. I have some suggestions for you - Plan your dress the previous day. Have two sets of dresses, one for freaking out on holidays and one set for your office. your official wear should make you look graceful. Never dress up freaky when you go to office.
Men will defenitely need few months to be closer to you. Since they have left you alone, don't think that they are not watching you. Men have the habbit of watching women around them without your knowledge. So be conscious about yourself. Never think that you are humiliated.
Best remedy for your agony is being more attentive towards your job and it is better that you have friends only outside your office. It is better is many ways according to my experience.
best of luck
2006-09-17 21:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by sona_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you too seem to see the same way as they see ! And that compounds the problem.
There are many work places where only men work and in large numbers. There , there are atleast one or two men who remain alone, aloof , and live by themselves ! This additional factor of you being a female creates this feeling ALSO in you. The day YOU overcome this thought, and feel yourself as a human being MORE than just being a female, the right kind of HEALTHY body language will flow out of you, and right kind of friendly people around will NATURALLY respond with a healthy , respectable kind of friendship. But give time for all this to happen, because attitudes takes time to change, and still more time to get noticed.
2006-09-17 21:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing first. You need to pay attention to your spellings. If you are loaded with work, there is no reason why you should feel frustrated. You may be feeling the problem because there is free time available - for whiling away. what is stated by you is a natural situation. In case feasible contemplate change of job. Your place is not going to change.
2006-09-17 21:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by HMG M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 03:00:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get hesitation to get free with your coworkers.
You should have a decent and distant relationship with each every one in your organization. If you comfortable, chat with every one, dont avoid any one in the office it will create problem.
Woman-men friendships are not a serious sin ,it is good only if it stays at a level. It will be also safe to you if u get get good frienships.
2006-09-17 21:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by sudharshan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think u need to find someone amongst the colleagues with whom u can sit and who is not so reluctant(lol) to sit with u and spend time with u. that person will make ur way into the others as well. and after some time u'll be able to enter the gathering of the others.
2006-09-17 20:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by fAr stAr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your complex or guilt feeling is making you feel lonely or something else.so pls do feel free while working and feel indipendent and feel proud that you are working & this will make you feel better
2006-09-18 00:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by rohith_bv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you live? If you live in the United States of America please contact me and I will give you some pointers.
2006-09-17 20:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest sex change operation.
Count Dracula
2006-09-17 20:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by The False Prophet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meditate on your breaks.
2006-09-17 20:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by Dennis Fargo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋