2006-09-17 20:34:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-09-17 20:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by Treezle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age old question. Sex for most women is all about in how they feel about themselves and also about how they think that you feel about them. The most georgeous supermodel in the world could stand nude in front of a mirror and point out only flaws that no one else (least alone a man would notice). In your question you did not mention how long you have been married. I can only assume that you are newlyweds and that your wife is not yet comfortable with being a sex-goddess, or that you have been together for a while now and you are trying to spice things up by asking for something new in the sack?
When I was first married my wife was a virgin, shy and naieve about sex. She was uncomfortalbe being naked in front of me and even me being naked around her. To combat this I created "naked weekends". From Friday night when we got home from work until Monday morning when we returned to work we had to be 100% nude at all times. We could do whatever we wanted but we had to remain new. Watching TV, fixing dinner, reading a book, the same things we always did- just nude. This worked and she began to relax, nudity was not always about sex. Now the fun part for me is that we were young and just married and so the nude weekends did turn into a lot of sex! My wife also learned that I was truly aroused by her and that I found her very desireable. I think that boosted her self esteem too. As for introducing new ideas into the bedroom... do your homework, show her books and things that she can read on her own, and keep it light and fun... never pressure. The funny thing about sex is that somehow a lot of people just think you are supposed to be good at it... It is like anything else in life the more you practice, the better you get... good luck to you both!
2006-09-17 20:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is crazy cause when one is making love and in motion, there is no time for shyness to play a part. Now the shyness could come from not wanting to perform sounds better.
2006-09-17 20:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her careful questions,what does she like and when. Does she want to take the lead or let you do the "work". Get her involved and try to find out more about what she wants in a careful way. Maybe there is something hidden in the past that ( not necessarily negative), that caused this shyness. The key is talk and act. Slowly opening her mind step by step.
2006-09-17 20:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by gini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Yeah you overcome your wife shyness by talking your expectations from her. I think if you can ask her fantasy wich will be really difficult coz she must be brought up in a very rigid faimly, So try to put her in a role playing like you became a hunter and she is your piece. try doing that but still best way is to ask wot she expect and let her understand that making love is a beautiful experince and it is back bone of every marriage. I think this will help you and her.
take care !!!
2006-09-17 20:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by Victor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a big deal of it with her. If she was raised to be modest, it can take her awhile to get over feeling shy. She will get over it, but it will take time. Once she is really comfortable with you she'll be less and less shy. There aren't many young women like her anymore and you should treasure her for it. When I was a girl, girls were taught to be very modest. We wouldn't even shower in front of other girls - no one was allowed to see us without our clothes on. If this is how your wife was raised, it will take her awhile to get over her conditioning.
In the meantime, make sure you are squeaky clean before making love. Women are very sensitive to everything including smells and tastes. Try to have a sense of humor about it all and make her laugh with silly humor. Never say or do anything insulting and do not criticize her. If you do she will not forget it and she will not want to make love with you. Be kind and gentle, and take your time giving her pleasure before seeking your own pleasure. She will love you and appreciate you for it.
2006-09-17 20:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by LadyLgl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shyness is the best that a woman can possess and they always should possess it and they should be submissive at times...and i think it really feels great when they're shy and submissive when men approach them..as it is sometimes very sexy and tempting and i think it is some sort of aphrodisiac for men..best of luck to you and you're really really lucky to get a woman as your wife...bye..
2006-09-17 20:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate!!!!
Talk to her about how you feel AND LISTEN very carefully when she tells you how she feels. Dont interrupt her, let her speak. Look at what the issues are and address them each with equal importance. DO NOT dismiss any of her feelings as insigmificant or trivial.
I cannot stress more strongly how important communication is and listening also. We have 2 ears and one mouth try to use them in that proportion.
GL
2006-09-17 20:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by robin_baker_uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be gentle, go slow, and give a lot of compliments. Make it as romantic as you can, candles , wine, roses. Make each time special for her, the shyness will gradually disappear.
2006-09-17 20:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!...shyness I don't know what to say umm....how long have the 2 of you been together? Try some wine. Good Luck!
2006-09-17 20:50:57 · answer #10 · answered by brigette b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends why she is being shy. Maybe she was traumatized and abused as a child. Maybe you are into really kinky **** that makes her cringe. Maybe she simply has a low sex drive. There's not enough info in your question to give an accurate answer.
2006-09-17 20:36:45 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋